Wondering what the heck is aromantic? Or, perhaps you don’t feel comfortable with romance? Do your partner’s romantic gestures make you uncomfortable? Are you doubting your love now?
Please don’t be… I’m so sorry you’re going through a confusing period. But we’ll soon solve that… I promise! Because this think-piece is the all-in-one solution for your worries.
Whether you suspect your own romantic orientation… or you want to know more about aromantics…. Whether you want help for yourself or help someone else… Let’s pave the way for everything with love.
And yes, you can love and deserve love. To turn that frown upside down, let’s begin…
What is aromantic?
The term aromantic refers to people who don’t experience romantic attraction towards others. However, it doesn’t impact their platonic feelings or sexual attraction.
An aromantic person doesn’t experience romantic attraction towards others.
However, that doesn’t imply that aromantic people don’t have feelings or emotions. Rather they form strong and loving relationships… just that there are no romantic feelings or romantic love.
Some aromantics don’t feel interested in relationships. They only have loving relationships with family and friends.
Whereas others form committed non-romantic relationships, aka queerplatonic relationships – friendship with intense commitment with intimacy; they aren’t like usual platonic attraction.
In this world, from Valentine’s Day to Christmas, everything is connected to romance. Whether you read a book or watch a movie, there’s always a bit of romance.
So, when aromantics date, they face lots of unrealistic expectations… because romance is just not their thing.
Society makes them feel dysfunctional for their preferences. It’s not a mental health disorder, but their romantic orientation.
Aromantics feel overwhelmed with romantic feelings and describe romantic love as clinginess.
Some assume lots of other things which aren’t true. So, let’s find out…
What aromantic is NOT?
Aromantics can love and feel love, but they don’t prefer romantic love. They can also socialize with people like everyone else.
Aromantics aren’t uncaring, incapable of loving, antisocial, or asocial. Also, it never means an aromantic can’t be asocial. Rather aromanticism has no connection with the others.
Aromantic folks can socialize… they don’t feel uncomfortable socializing. They don’t not have social needs. There’s only a lack of romantic attraction. Period.
Is the picture still unclear? Let’s understand better with…
Since the idea is quite young, many can’t grasp it quickly… and that’s normal. Rather, it’s better if you’re more curious about it. Understand the usual tendencies of aromantics with these…
1. Someone who bears children with another person and cares for the other parent like a friend.
2. An aromantic person doesn’t feel distracted in relationships. They don’t forget their usual responsibilities.
3. Aromantics don’t feel butterflies or their hearts don’t skip a beat for anyone.
4. An aromantic person might have a strong intimate connection with their partner. But they seem more like housemates.
5. Aromantics seem cold to others – mainly romantic interests – because they don’t feel romantic attraction.
Aromanticism is a part of the LGBTQ+ family. But how important are they to one another? Let’s find out from here…
What does aromantic mean in LSBTQ+?
Aromantics face many social stigmas and experience bad experiences. The LGBTQ+ community helps aromantics feel accepted as human beings, unlike the cruel society.
As per the LGBTQ+ community, being aromantic doesn’t mean they’re any different. Even if they don’t satisfy heteronormative expectations, they’re no less than heterosexuals.
Society pushes the different ones… so, it’s important to discover aromantics. They find their place in the LGBTQ+ community without any discrimination.
Discriminations led many people to attempt suicide. Many got depression and anxiety too. People who identify as aromantic find love in the LGBTQ+ community, which society declined.
The empowerment and support save aromantics from sinking in the deep abyss. They learn to understand themselves and handle social discrimination from this community.
Aromantics feel accepted, seen, heard, and loved under this community’s umbrella.
Wondering when this term was born? After all, it’s not that common. Let’s find out the roots…
Where does aromantic come from?
The term exactly means the opposite of romantic. It became popular in the 2000s and gained recognition in the Macmillan dictionary in 2017.
The term aromantic has a straightforward meaning. The “a ” implies “not” and “romantic” implies anything about romance. “Aromantic ” is an adjective and the nouns are aromanticism or aromanticity.
Some confuse aromantic and aromatic, but the latter implies something with a sweet scent.
Though used much before, the term gained popularity in the 2000s. People usually link aromantic with asexual like how they club romantic and sexual.
The word was first introduced in Macmillan Dictionary in 2017 and in dictionary.com in 2021
Wondering if there’s an aromantic in your vicinity? Recognize them with these…
Do you suspect a friend or your partner to be aromantic? Well, there are some basic characteristics in all aromantics despite their sexual orientations. Tally their nature with these to find out their secret…
Oh, wait… it might not be a secret. They probably didn’t discover it themselves.
1. They don’t experience romantic attraction
2. They don’t believe they need a romantic relationship to feel content
3. They don’t get crushes or feel infatuated
4. They call the romance genre lame
5. They call romantics clingy
6. They call themselves loner or independent
7. They’re emotionally satisfied with other forms of love
8. Romantic activities don’t prompt romantic feelings in them
9. They feel smothered with others’ romantic feelings towards them
10. They do desire sex but without romance.
Are you in Team Asexuals or Aromatics – they’re all same? Then let me clear the air for you with this…
Aromantic vs Asexual
An aromantic person doesn’t feel romantic attraction. Whereas an asexual person doesn’t experience sexual attraction. Romance and sex are different, so one person may or may not be both.
Aromantic folks don’t feel romantic attraction but may want sexual interaction. They might be in relationships but it’s not because of romantic love but the strong connection.
Asexual people don’t desire sex but may want romantic love. However, they might feel slight sexual desires during intense emotional moments.
Romantic and sexual orientations are different, so aromantic and asexual aren’t the same either. Also, it doesn’t have any connection with gender.
An aromantic might be asexual, but it’s not compulsory. When someone is both, they call themselves “aro ace or aroace”.
As per social norms, sexual and romantic feelings and attraction go hand in hand… but it’s clearly not.
For instance, a playboy indulging in sex multiple people… do they romantically love all of their sexual connections? Mostly, not.
Think you’re not too excited or too indifferent about romance? This might be for you…
Aromantic vs Greyromantic
Aromantics don’t like or experience romance at all. Grayromantic, however, is someone between allo- and aromantic. They’re not too romantic but not too aromantic either.
Aromantic has a definite meaning. They don’t experience romantic attraction at all.
However, some people might feel a slight romantic attraction. Their feelings aren’t extreme or vivid like alloromantics or as bleak as aromantics.
They fall in between the romantic orientation spectrum.
It’s also an interim identity for some. Those who are confused or didn’t discover their identity yet also use it.
Many people prefer grayromantic and use it as a replacement too.
Think aromantics and nonamorous are the same? Because no “love”… let’s clear the doubts here…
Aromantic vs Nonamorous
A nonamorous neither feel any kind of love nor believes in commitment. For aromantics, commitment to a significant other is very important.
Nonamorous folks don’t desire intimate long-term connections. Their attitude remains the same towards friends and romantic connection.
That doesn’t imply all aromantics are nonamorous. Some aromantics believe in long-term commitments too.
Wondering if you’re in this boat? Let’s get sure from…
Signs of being aromantic (how to know if you are aromantic)
Is feeling romantic attraction to other people out of the question? Do you relate to the definition and characteristics? Perhaps you’re unsure of your own desires?
If the term aromantic hits close to your heart, you need to check these…
1. You don’t get romance fantasies
Is everyone around you thinking of love? Perhaps your best friend discusses how dreamy a beach sunset is. But you don’t feel anything… it looks like any other sunset to you.
If you never link romance with any person or object, that might be the clue.
2. You get squishes rather than crushes
Crushes are romantic attractions towards someone. Squishes are platonic attractions to others. Do you usually feel squishes at most?
Perhaps you wonder what even having crushes means. This might be a serious sign of aromanticism.
3. Romance is off your dating plate
You’re not particularly against relationships or going out on dates. However, you don’t choose the other person and date nights with romantic feelings.
Your partners are more like intimate friends to you. Sometimes you relate more with friends-with-benefits (FWB) arrangements. If that sounds familiar, welcome to the aromantic city.
4. You like casual sex
You don’t mind casual sexual relationships or sex with an intimate friend. And, you have sexual urges like any other healthy human being.
However, you don’t think of marrying or dating them. To avoid hurting feelings, you feel FWB is a better choice.
5. Your feelings are always platonic
If you’re aromantic, it’s not that you can’t love. You do love your partners, however, you can’t satisfy them.
Usually, you pour out platonic love, but your partner demands romantic love.
Your love can’t intensify to the “You’re my other half” kinda thoughts.
6. You hear a lot about mixed signals
Did any partner ever accuse you of ill intentions? Perhaps they said you gave off mixed signals? It’s possibly because they were romantic unlike you. And your feelings didn’t sync well with theirs.
7. Romantic gestures are your red flags
When someone gives you flowers and chocolates… What do you feel? How do you feel about romantic confessions? Does that make you run for the hills?
If romantic gestures are serious red flags to you, you’re clearly aromantic.
8. You love erotically, not romantically
What if your partner asked you to vividly express love? People usually don’t catch on to intense platonic feelings. So, you find eroticism is the better option.
Are your loving feelings and affections more about sex than romance? You know the answer, right?
9. The romance genre seems pointless to you
Starting from books to movies, from songs to poetries… romance is an overused feature. Do you feel weird when you randomly notice a romantic scene in sci-fi?
Perhaps you feel “I didn’t choose this to watch romance” or “What’s so good about this?” Moreover, when they show one person loving two, do you become speechless?
Or, you feel less than others because you just can’t relate. These are sure-fire signs of aromanticism.
10. You’d rather stay-in on Valentine’s Day
Do you hate-hate-hate Valentine’s Day? Perhaps you don’t hate the day… but the people weirding out. Or, you constantly fear someone showing up with chocolates?
You know you don’t want that… and turning them away might feel very awkward. Further, your friends’ “Come on, say yes” makes you uncomfortable. Then you’re quite aromantic already.
11. Your friendships are strong
Do you nurture friendships better than relationships? Believe your friendships may last an eternity but not the relationships? That’s because aromantics feel attracted platonically.
You feel secure and give more if the other person doesn’t demand romance. Your feelings might mainly consist of empathy, understanding, and compassion.
12. You don’t relate to weddings
For women, weddings are the most romantic things in their life… It’s no different for some men either.
Many find the small decorative objects romantic. Some people fantasize about having perfect romantic fairy-tail weddings too.
Such ideas don’t appeal to aromantics. They see weddings as no different from regular parties.
13. You’d rather die single
Die-hard romantics live for romance. Some can’t live without reading/watching romantic content. However, if you seriously consider singlehood for a lifetime, you might be aromantic.
And you’ll also feel calm and satisfied about this decision.
14. Love-life gossip bores you
When your friends gossip about their love life… how do you feel? Do you think “What a bore…” or zone them out with other entertainment?
If yes, you can’t relate with or encourage others’ romance. Aromantics are apathetic towards the romance concept and can’t keep up with it.
15. You pretended to crush
When you know you’re aromantic, pretending to crush on someone or leading them on… I’m not referring to that.
Rather, did you ever feel insecure that you don’t have crushes? Everyone around you had someone on their mind… and you simply made up a crush-story to blend in?
If you had such unfortunate personal experiences, you might be aromantic.
Aromanticism isn’t that simple though. It consists of a range of other orientations. Let’s know more here…
Aromantic doesn’t just define no romance alone. It is an assortment of various romantic orientations.
Along with different sexual orientations, it becomes even more vast. As an aromantic person, know exactly what defines your inclination here…
Such people are somewhere between the romantic and aromantic spectrum. You may experience some romantic feelings but that depends on other conditions. You may also have a slight interest in romantic relationships.
This is when you only experience romantic attraction when there’s an intense emotional bond. You might have romantic feelings for your best friend.
3. Akoiromantic or Lithromantic
In this, you feel a romantic attraction towards someone. However, your feelings stay as long as the other person doesn’t develop feelings.
People identify as recipromantic if they develop romantic feelings… only when they know the other person reciprocates their feelings.
The romantic feelings of this type fluctuate too intensely. Some days they’re hopeless romantics, other days they’re strict aromantics, or even grayromantic.
If you believe in romance and desire romantic relationships with the opposite gender, you’re heteroromantic. But it doesn’t imply you’re heterosexual. You might be sexually attracted to any gender.
This is when you want to build romantic relationships with people of the same gender. But again, you might experience sexual attraction to multiple genders.
In this, you experience romantic attraction to any two or more genders. You may or may not feel sexually attracted to them.
8. Bisexual aromantic
Being a bisexual aromantic, you don’t develop romantic feelings for any gender. However, you experience sexual attraction towards multiple genders.
9. Asexual Aromantic
Asexual aromantic folks feel neither romantic nor sexual attraction towards others. However, they form everlasting connections… which you might call intense platonic relationships.
If you don’t feel romantic attraction… but desire romantic affection from others, you’re cupioromantic. You might even desire romantic relationships.
These people can’t identify platonic and romantic attraction separately.
Anxious if your aromanticism will spoil your relationships? Let’s get more info here…
How does aromanticism affect relationships?
All aromantics don’t want a relationship. To some, it’s simply a burden because they can’t reciprocate their feelings. However, despite any romantic feelings, some may have relationships. There are several reasons like…
1. They have a desire to raise a family and children. Some people simply like raising families and being surrounded by lots of laughter. But they may or may not be their biological children.
2. They want to exchange affectionate love and care. It’s a pure non-romantic kind of affection.
3. It might be due to mutual feelings and emotional intimacy due to common interests. These are platonic and not romantic.
4. Some date and only prioritize the sexual aspect of the relationship. They only need a steady sexual partner.
5. Some only seek an emotional and intellectual bond. They want someone to share their feelings and opinions with one person throughout the day.
However, nobody reached their goals easily in life. Let’s know what awaits you in this journey…
Challenges for aromantics
Society’s unnecessary restraints always get in our way. They always moral police whenever someone is different.
Instead of accepting them, they attack the unique ones. Before you prepare to combat the pain of your journey, know your challenges…
1. Family pressure
Society and family always urge young adults to settle down, get married, and raise children. It’s also known as Amatonormativity, an unhealthy social expectation, and pressure.
2. Inferiority complex
Due to Amatonormativity, aromantics doubt their feelings. They feel inferior and mentally despise themselves for being different. Sometimes, their fear of disappointing family results in mental health issues.
3. Entertainment conflict
From paperbacks to DVDs, songs to haikus, romance is a popular genre. Heck, you’ll even find romance in the horror genre. It’s always there… even if it’s in the background.
Some aromantics like and some feel indifferent towards it. However, fictional romanticism might repulse others.
If you’re a romantic, you know relationships are tough luck. You want romance-free relationships, and people think you are a player, fickle-minded, or maneater/womanizer.
Your type of love clashes… and possibly you want to give up on relationships.
5. Unhealthy and forced relationships
Due to Amatonormativity, many people accept the “Social norm”. They get married or start dating to satisfy their loved ones.
And in the end, they become victims of unhealthy relationships. They also unintentionally disappoint their partner.
But that’s not all, people attack with baseless beliefs too. Let’s know the rumors here…
Myths about Aromantics
Whenever something different or unique appears, society gossips. But it’s always a game of Chinese whispers.
They never spread the reality, but distort it into the opposite. You’ll meet mean people who make assumptions in your face. It’s time to educate them…
1. They hate sex
Aromanticity and asexuality are two distinct topics. So, aromantic folks may or may not like sexual contact. It entirely depends on their sexual orientation.
They aren’t sexless or practice celibacy, but form sexual connections without romance.
2. They can’t reciprocate love
Even though society looks down on aromantics, they can love. They reciprocate it without the hint of romance. They might be different but their devotion, dedication, care, and commitment are no less.
3. They hold a grudge against romance
Aromanticism isn’t because of a bad experience in romance. They don’t hate romance and it’s usually indifference. They even enjoy romantic songs and fiction.
However, very few – not all – might despise romance.
4. They’re cruelly heartless
Aromantics make the best allies and family. They build deep emotional bonds like everyone else. A lack of romantic love doesn’t make them cruel or heartless.
Their relationships depend on platonic love. They’re honest and care about others’ feelings. Nobody wants to find out while dating that they can’t get romantic love.
5. They’re commitment-phobes
Many people begin dating and find out their partner won’t commit. It’s quite a modern relationship issue. So, people develop romantic feelings without commitment.
Simultaneously, aromantics can commit to others without any romance.
6. They didn’t meet their fate
People don’t choose to be aromantic. It’s not because of a traumatic or abusive relationship. They’re pretty good with finding their destined one… if they believe it.
And even when they find them, they won’t experience romantic attraction.
7. Physical intimacy creep them out
Non-sexual physical intimacy has no connection with romance. Don’t stereotype that aromantics hate physical contact. They might or might not like it. It’s entirely irrelevant to their romantic orientation.
8. Aromanticism is fixable
Aromanticism isn’t a disease, so what will people fix? Unless a person says “I’m struggling to make romantic relationships” they’re fine.
“I’m aromantic” isn’t a plea for help. It’s a statement that they don’t love romantically. Never force romance on an aromantic. It’s unhealthy and even traumatizing for both sides.
9. Aromantic relationships are basic friendship
You and your best friend love one another, but there’s no romance. Will you want to share your entire life with them?
They might have other flings raise their own family… will you really feel good about them having their individual life?
An aromantic’s love is mostly platonic. However, it’s much stronger than regular friendship. They commit to this friend for eternity and make them a priority.
The lack of romance doesn’t reduce loyalty and commitment. If you were just friends with someone, would they be the most important to you? Obviously not!
10. Aromantics and Polyamory are opposites
For the last time, aromantics can love too. So, if they can love one person, it’s possible to love more people too. Yes, polyamory is mostly about romantic love.
However, there are diverse forms of love. So, if you find the correct kind of people, arromantics can practice polyamory.
If you want to befriend aromantic folk, don’t forget to stun them with these…
Facts about Aromantics
Think you know enough about aromantics? Not yet… Whether you hit up another aromantic or you want to know about yourself… there’s never any end to knowledge.
So, strengthen your feelings about yourself (as an aromantic), or about your aromantic friend here…
1. Aromanticism is an orientation and spectrum
It is a romantic orientation, not a sexual one. Aromantic folks can have diverse sexual identities. Aromantic and asexual aren’t synonymous.
Since it’s a romantic orientation, it includes a spectrum of romantic inclinations. To know about the spectrum, check “Aromantic Spectrum”.
2. Aromantics aren’t lonely or melancholic
Society links romantic love with happiness and imposes it on everyone. They feel aromantics must get married and have kids to be truly happy.
Aromantics, on the other hand, have the opposite opinion. They find their happiness without romance or relationships in platonic bonds.
3. Aromantics can form LTR
Aromantics and long-term relationships work differently than traditional LTRs. They live together, share finances, might get married, and even raise children.
The relationships can be of any structure (monogamy or polyamory) and sexual orientation.
It might also be queer or quasi platonic relationships (QPR). QPR is more committed and intimate than regular friendships yet not romantic.
But even allosexuals and alloromantics can practice QPR. So, it’s not exclusive to aromantics.
4. Amatonormativity brews unhappiness
The social expectation and pressure to get married, practice monogamy, have children… because that’s how humans must live… is baseless.
Aromantics aren’t the only sufferers of amatonormativity. It can be anyone in the world who doesn’t have the same ideologies.
The aromantic’s partner might get depressed and isolate themselves from society.
5. Aromantics aren’t bots
Aromantics aren’t void of emotions… They do shed tears, laugh, get angry, and are pretty much like any of us. They might be happy for others’ fulfilling romance… or plot something evil.
They ARE unique humans – just like you and me – and have all human emotions. Romantic orientation doesn’t change their nature or character.
If you’re aromantic, this journey might impact you too deeply. So, let’s learn…
How to cope if you’re an aromantic yourself?
To cope with social pressure, seek support groups, mental health experts, or contact LGBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564.
Society attacks anything different and new from their normal. They stigmatize aromantics and their beliefs. Some people brush it off with “It’s just a way to rebel”.
The pressure of myths sometimes leads to self-isolation or the pretense of being someone else. If your friends and family don’t support you, seek support groups.
Meet people from your community, create strong bonds, and cherish every bond. Learn other’s journeys to cope through this situation.
If you feel depressed or anxious, seek medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
Never give into sexual or romantic coercion. However, if anyone bullies you or you feel suicidal, connect with the LGBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564.
Worried about sharing it with your loved ones? Follow me to reduce your worries…
How to disclose to your loved ones that you’re aromantic?
It’s always hard to come out of the closet. Whether it’s gender, sexual, or romantic orientation. However, let’s hope that someone will understand.
One of your loved ones will definitely help you through thick and thin… with that prayer, let’s begin…
1. Find out what you want
Firstly, it’s not necessary to explain what’s up with your romantic orientation. Only if you want to do it willingly, strive forward. You might also do it if your friends and family try to set you up with someone.
Take time to think about what you want.
2. Follow simplicity
No need for fancy preparation. You may confess it over a family group chat or a conference call. Don’t invite them over to disclose the news.
If they don’t feel glad about it, they might pass crude remarks. That’s the last thing you want to hear from your loved ones.
3. Explain the meaning
Saying “I’m aromantic” is not enough. Explain what it means and talk about your romantic orientation. If you feel nervous, write down a short note.
Also, express your reasons too… Did you confess because of family pressure for marriage? Ask them to support your life decision and bless you.
4. Avoid unwanted confusion
The concept is recent and there will be buzzing confusion. Whether a group chat, conference call, or an in-person dinner party… they’ll have lots of questions. Some will be mean, others genuine.
However, unless they ask you directly, don’t clarify it. They might not take your goodwill positively.
5. Bring in a support
Whether it’s a friend from a support group or a childhood friend… keep in touch with them. You need strength during this period. Don’t have this conversation unless you’re comfortable.
If you’re not aromantic but want to support someone else’s journey… that’s also possible and here it is…
How to support someone who is aromantic?
Whether it’s a best friend or a family member… whether they’re aromantic, gay, asexual, or something else… always support them.
You never know what they might go through. Perhaps they needed one person’s hand to return from the point of no return. Let’s learn how to share love…
1. Respect them with your heart
It’s okay if you don’t understand everything about aromantics. People’s different opinions can confuse you. So, find the difference between baseless rumors and facts. If some statement sounds malicious, investigate it.
Search it online or discuss it with the rumor sources. Don’t say something disrespectful on their face… even if it’s for ignorance.
2. Don’t dismiss their emotions
An aromantic experiences social stigma every day. They go through unimaginable pain. So, if they express their feelings, never dismiss them. Don’t promise them it’ll change. It might, but they’ll suffer more meanwhile.
Don’t say that they’ll soon get over it… or it’s a phase. Because it’s their life, not a phase.
3. Indulge if it’s right
If this person is a good friend, chat about it. If they’re not but want to talk with you, that’s fine too. But if they’re a co-worker, your boss, a professor, or someone with an untold boundary… avoid such convo.
Let them be, wish them the best, and don’t make them uncomfortable.
4. Never assume a word
Some people always break the ice with: “I know how it feels because I have another friend. I completely relate to you”
If you’re not aromantic as well, you can’t relate. Such conversations always follow with assumptions. Some of them are myths, others are irrelevant. Avoid hurting them with assumptions.
5. Listen more openly
Aromantics have a lot to say… they really need a friend to genuinely share their emotions. Listen to them actively and never interrupt. Let their feelings out, lend them your ears, and validate their feelings.
Planning about joining an aromantic march? Or is it just a cheer? Let’s know about the most important symbolism here…
To date, there were three aromantic flags. Each of them introduced something new, special, and meaningful in the flag.
And before you wave or hoist that prideful flag, know all about it from the beginning. Because this marks the beginning of acceptance…
1. The First Flag
The first aromantic flag had four horizontal stripes of green, yellow, orange, and black from the top.
However, they changed it as it was similar to that of Rastafari and since they included alloromantics. The colors symbolize the follows:
Green: Red is the color of romance. So, green, being the opposite of red, is a symbol of non-romance.
Yellow: Yellow roses symbolize friendship, so the color signifies platonic love.
Orange: It is a mixture of red and yellow, which represents the grayromantics.
Black: It represents alloromantics as a rejection of traditional romantic norms.
2. Cameron Whimsy’s Trial Flag
This is a five-colored horizontal-striped flag. They didn’t change the top and bottom colors. The middle ones were light green, yellow, and gray. Their symbolism are:
Light Green: Aromantic Spectrum
Gray: Demi- and grayromantic
3. The Redesigned Flag
Cameron Whimsy also designed this flag. They switch the yellow with white color. They also paired the top two and bottom two colors.
Green + Light Green: The green signifies aromanticity, while the two colors together signify the aromantic spectrum.
White: This is the platonic stripe. It expresses the validity and significance of all aromantic love and connection. It includes aesthetic attractions, QPR, friendship, and family
Gray + Black: This pair symbolizes the sexuality spectrum. It includes aromantic allosexuals, aromantic asexuals (aroace), and all other possible types.
Since aro is short of aromantic, people also use arrow signs to symbolize themselves. Like “ace” of asexuals, aroaces also use the Ace of Spades to symbolize themselves.
Want to quickly find out if someone is aromantic? Definitely try this…
You might be an aromantic yourself and still be unaware. Or suspect your friend to be one, and want to find out the reality. Or, if you simply want fun, try out this aromantic quiz.
Also, it doesn’t matter even if you’re not. Something is waiting for you at the end…
1. What will you first notice in a potential partner?
A. Their looks
B. Their attitude
2. Do you want a polyamorous relationship?
A. Doesn’t hurt trying
3. Is romance a repulsive topic?
C. I’m fine with it
4. Is sex a cool way to express love?
A. Of course
B. Depends on the situation
C. It’s not important, but exciting
5. Do you want to co-parent with anyone?
A. I wanna try
B. I might if I like them
C. I’m not into this but depends on my feelings
6. What do you think about LTR?
A. A disastrous idea
B. It’s complicated
C. I want that
7. How do you feel about romantic movies?
A. I hate them
B. It depends on my mood
C. I love them
8. How do you feel about sex on the first date?
A. Sounds like a good plan
B. Maybe if they want it
C. That’s too early for sex
9. How do you feel about your partner initiating sex?
A. I like it/don’t mind
B. I bail out of it
C. I compromise because they want it.
10. What’s your ideal date?
A. Nothing romantic
B. Hiking, parasailing, anything adventurous
C. Candlelight dinners or late-night movie dates
11. Do you want a relationship?
12. How do you feel when other couples kiss?
A. That’s hot
B. It’s sweet but I don’t want that today
C. I hope they’re happy
13. Who do you want to have sex with?
A. Anyone that I find attractive
B. Maybe with someone I love
C. With the one that I love, my fated one
14. Did you ever have crushes?
A. What’s that?
B. I don’t know, it didn’t really last that long
15. Who do you flirt with?
A. With friends
B. I feel shy, but I want to
C. My future spouse
16. Which house date appeals the most to you?
A. Coffee, snacks, lots of ramble about the day, and steamy sex
B. Snuggling in bed and watching Netflix. Sex if the movie is too boring
C. Fairy lights, candle-lit take-out, sensual touching, and dancing, maybe a bit of rain outside
17. Do you want One-night stands or friends with benefits?
A. I’m down
B. Can try
C. It’s a turn-off
18. What’s the most probable reason for your singlehood?
A. I can’t romance others
B. I’m inconsistent with romance
C. I didn’t find the perfect romantic partner
19. Wanna get married?
A. Not really… but if I find someone.
B. Everyone does, so why not?
C. Of course, I have lots of plans for the wedding.
20. Who do you want your future children to resemble?
A. I don’t mind anything… if my partner has children from a previous marriage. That works too.
B. I didn’t even think about it. It’s not in my hand.
C. I hope they get mama and papa’s best features. And even if we adopt, we’ll pair outfits to match
If you mostly answered A’s
You’re undoubtedly aromantic. You think quite logically and way ahead of yourself. You believe more in practicality. However, you’re not numb to love. You know how to express love, but sometimes people don’t understand you.
If you mostly answered B’s
You’re grayromantic. Your feelings towards the idea of romance change from time to time. It’s not that you change your thoughts like your clothes. However, your opinions aren’t clear to you yet. Sometimes you want more romance and other times less of it.
If you mostly answered C’s
You’re a hopeless romantic aka alloromantic. You can’t live by a day or at least a week without a touch of romance. Whether it’s a romance with your partner or in a book… both fulfill you to the core. You hope to never run out of romance.
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A word from ThePleasantRelationship
Many believe aromantics can’t love, they don’t have that capability… because if they can’t be romantic, what good are they? Or perhaps they’re just too cold to love anybody.
Love doesn’t end at “romance”. For instance, when childbirth, does the mother hug the baby with romantic feelings? Why does a child hug their caregiver after a bad day?
Isn’t that feeling also love? It’s pure, unconditional, undemanding, and eternal. What more can anyone demand?
Like sex, you can’t force romance on anybody… not even yourself. So, be proud to express yourself and live… because you have the right. And always, love yourself the most, because you deserve it.
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Surabhi wakes up every day with a drive to craft words that can create a soulful impact. Creatively adventurous, she is always seeking to learn new skills and acquire new experiences. With a hidden soft corner for languages (especially Urdu), she writes poetry occasionally, binges on romantic shows, and LOVES to talk. A hustler, admirer, chaser, Surabhi is just another-someone who refused to give up on her dreams. She says, she is just somebody who’s trying to make herself a writer and for now, she’s just writing...