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60 Signs He Doesn’t Want a Relationship with You

60 Signs He Doesn’t Want a Relationship with You

Updated on Sep 20, 2023

Reviewed by Julianne Cantarella, MSW, LSW , Certified Relationship Coach

60 Signs He Doesn't Want a Relationship with You

Can you recognize the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you? You should know how to understand the confusing signs before you waste any more time on someone who isn’t right.

It can be difficult to tell the difference between someone who is naturally relaxed and someone who is careless.

That frustration might become severe when it comes to the individual with whom you’re in a relationship!

So, how do you go about it? The first step is to understand the difference between a relaxed attitude and signs that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship. Of course, it’s much easier than it appears but it’s not impossible.

We’ve compiled a list of the top ten signs that a man doesn’t want to be in a relationship so you can get out before it’s too late.

60 Signs He Doesn't Want a Relationship with You
60 Signs He Doesn’t Want a Relationship with You

Signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you

When you like him and want to establish a relationship with him then it becomes necessary to understand what he wants. 

The relationship is a foundation that builds upon the love and trust of two people so make sure to check out if he wants a genuine relationship with you or not. 

Does he want to be in a relationship with you?

Is he serious about you?

If these are your concerns, then here are the multiple songs to help you identify what he wants when it comes to being in a relationship. 

Scroll down and find out if half of the signs are reliable to your situation or not.

1. He is not giving you attention when you both are together

Have you noticed that while you’re together, he’s usually on his phone? Do you have to keep repeating yourself because he isn’t paying attention to you? 

When you’re together he’s distracted and disengaged which is one of the clear signs that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. 

If his mind is elsewhere, he’s mentally checking out and he doesn’t seem there, he’s essentially showing you that you’re not very important to him. 

But if he shows you that you matter by giving you his undivided attention and cherishing your every word, he’s significantly more likely to want to be in a relationship with you.

2. He doesn’t make any long term plans with you 

You may be eager to make long-term plans with a guy you really like. 

For example, you could wish to ask him to a friend’s wedding a few months in advance, purchase concert tickets, and plan a trip together. 

When a guy doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, he’s not likely to commit to anything long-term. 

Instead of being excited about the idea of spending time with you for these kinds of activities in the future, he’s hesitant and unable to offer you a firm “yes.”

And if a person refuses to consider your future together, he should be considered past.

3. He doesn’t introduce his friends to you

Have you met his circle of friends yet? When a guy is interested in you, he will make it a point to introduce you to the other people who are important in his life. 

He’ll want his friends to meet you and get to know you but he’ll also want to see how you get along with everyone, especially if he plans to be with you long-term. 

If you haven’t met his friends or anyone else important in his life, he’s actually showing you that you aren’t that important to him.

When a guy isn’t serious about you, he won’t introduce you to his friends since it’s not worth his time and effort.

4. You can’t trust him for any matter

If you can’t trust or count on him, you can ensure he doesn’t really want to be in a relationship with you.

When a man is unreliable and undependable, it’s because he hasn’t prioritized you in his life. He doesn’t want to be with you if he constantly cancels plans with you that are vague about his whereabouts and isn’t honest with you. 

After all, if he was really genuine about establishing a relationship with you, he’d do everything he could to keep his word and fulfill his obligations to you.

However, if he constantly disappoints you, it’s time to let him go.

5. He is not spending much time with you

Is he gone for days, weeks, or even months at a period before you hear from him again? This is a clear sign that a man isn’t truly interested in a relationship with you. 

When a guy goes MIA, it’s not unusual for him to play the game and date, other women, on the side. When he suddenly turns dark, it’s usually because he’d rather spend his time with someone else. 

And if you never know when you’ll hear from him or see him again, it’s a sign he’s not willing to pursue a meaningful relationship with you.

6. He is not available emotionally to you

While you may have opened up to this guy and feel comfortable confiding in him, it’s as important to consider his desire to open up to you in return. Has he allowed you to connect emotionally? 

When a man doesn’t want to be in a relationship, he’ll keep conversations about his feelings and past as light as possible.

He won’t invest emotionally in you or a future relationship with you, therefore he won’t take the time to truly open up to you. 

Even if you feel comfortable being vulnerable and having personal conversations with him, his decision to be emotionally distant and put you at a distance is a clear sign that you should keep your distance.

7. He only contacts you when he needs something from you

You see his text. You become excited.

You talk for a while and then send each text with a big smile. You’re glad that he’s finally paying more attention to you than he normally does.

But then he’s gone like he always is.

“That’s fine,” you think. “He’ll change his mind.” “He must have a lot on his plate.”

You start to wonder when he’ll respond to your text, but you don’t want to wait that long, so you text him instead.

And he’s still not responding.

Hours pass with no response to your communication.

Even though you can find his social media stories, comments, and postings all over the place.

However, if you’ve been stuck in this cycle for a long time thinking he’ll change or things will improve, you should reconsider your relationship because it’s a clear sign he doesn’t want to be in one with you.

If you get the impression that he’s talking to you because he’s bored, that’s not enough motivation for him to take you seriously assuming that’s what you want.

He’s only doing it to pass the time until something more interesting comes along.

8. He always remains busy and never gives time to you

It’s perfectly normal to be busy every now and then.

Men have objectives, social circles, families, training, pets, automobiles, and difficulties to deal with. They should be for the sake of everyone around them.

And when you have a man with his own life, you must be highly understanding of his choices for how he spends his time.

There are a lot of crazy women out there who won’t let their boyfriend breathe or do his responsibilities without worrying about not having enough time with him.

So, if you’re dealing with a man who gets busy every now and then because he’s working or just wants to hang out with the guys and you’re supportive of it, he’ll most likely appreciate it and love the time you spend with even more.

You shouldn’t have big hopes for a future with him if he’s usually busy for an extended period of time. Unless he gives you a valid reason, you shouldn’t have high hopes for a future with him.

If you’re not even dating him, expect him to be busy because he has other friends who are more important to him and that’s exactly why he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.

9. He texts other girls on social media rather than you

It’s pretty common for a single guy to be constantly flirting with girls. Single guys do this and social media makes flirting more simple.

You technically don’t have the right to tell him what to do if you’re not officially dating him, even if it makes you jealous and irritates you as long as he doesn’t rub it in your face and become too disrespectful about it.

However, you should be realistic about your chances of having an actual relationship with him if he avoids any form of commitment and shows you more love and care because he’s always busy texting and liking other girls’ photographs.

10. He doesn’t want to meet your family or friends

You’ve recently met him but the idea of him seeing your best friends shouldn’t strike him as weird or strange.

A guy who doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you will do everything he can to stay out of your social groups.

Only a man who has built a genuine relationship with you would have the desire or interest to learn more about the individuals who matter to you.

Only when he believes that sharing a life with you is at least a possibility will he show genuine interest.

However, before you jump to conclusions keep in mind that meeting your friends or family is a difficult endeavor.

Some guys avoid it out of fear of making a bad first impression and others think it’s simply too soon.

11. Ha makes you feel like being in a relationship is wrong

If you’ve had the conversation multiple times in between and you still haven’t gotten the answer you want, he should snap out of your hopes and dreams since he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.

Every situation and talk is unique, a man may tell you right away that he isn’t looking for anything serious, which is both honest and respectful.

Another guy will confuse the issue and avoid giving you a direct answer.

That’s because he may not be sure about you yet or he may know he doesn’t want to be with you but wants to keep you around or he may simply not know what he wants.

It’s up to you how you handle this situation but if you’re rejected the first time, there’s a good chance you’ll be rejected again.

It’s entirely up to you how you act now that you’re completely aware of the situation.

There is no right or wrong answer and each relationship is unique but it is important that you understand your chances after every rejection.

12. There is always some excuse for not being exclusive with you

“Hun, let’s see how it goes.”

“Before I get into a relationship, I need to figure things out.”

These are just a few of the common excuses men make when they don’t want to be in a monogamous relationship but still want to keep you around.

You should be understanding if a man you love doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you since he requires all of his attention, time, and effort. 

It’s pointless to be with someone who thinks you’ll get in his way since you want to be with a man who knows what he’s doing and wants you to join him on his path to greater success.

When you’re tired of his ignoring your wants and being emotionally unavailable to you for far too long, there’s no point in waiting for him to change his mind.

Understand that what you’re getting now is unlikely to change, especially after dating him for a year or two.

13. You feel like you can’t express yourself freely when he is around

You’re able to express yourself freely and openly with him which is a strong sign that he wants to be with you for the long haul.

Aside from the usual arguments, he’ll make sure you’re comfortable enough to chat to him, share your thoughts and express your emotions.

This also implies that if you’re in love with a guy but you’re always afraid of him when he’s unhappy, he’ll pick up on it and react appropriately.

When tensions arise in your interactions and you try to avoid disputes the majority of the time, he’ll do whatever he wants no matter how it makes you feel.

14. He doesn’t respect your time and choices

He doesn’t take your time or you seriously if he’s always late or never considers carrying out your plans together.

If he regularly breaks promises and cancels meetings, then he isn’t taking his words or you seriously.

And if he doesn’t take you seriously, he won’t take you seriously enough to want to be in a relationship with you.

Consider this before you continue daydreaming about having children together, how will your relationship progress if he continues to put his own plans and activities ahead of yours at all times and whenever he feels like it?

The reason he doesn’t take your time seriously is that you don’t express your dissatisfaction loudly enough.

When he cancels his plans with you regularly, make sure you’re not constantly available to him.

15. Your family or friends warn you about him

When the majority of your friends and family members disagree with you, it’s a clear sign he doesn’t want to commit to you.

It’s not always easy to take what they say seriously, especially when you’re in love missing out on the warning signs and how he makes you happy just by being with him.

With the exception of the occasional jealous person, the majority of your best friends and family members truly know what’s best for you.

They aren’t in a relationship, therefore, they aren’t looking at him through the same rose-tinted glasses you are.

And having individuals who only see what’s outside the box that is your life can be beneficial at times.

16. He is always uncomfortable when you are around his phone

Let’s face it, Not that you should be snooping on his phone.

We all like to do that now and again to check where people stand but if he acts strangely when you’re near his phone for whatever reason, there’s probably something you “shouldn’t” see there.

Maybe it’s not that horrible but the uneasy and panicked feeling you get any time he has to use his phone next to you should alert you to the fact that something is wrong and it will undoubtedly influence your relationship with him in some manner.

How you handle the situation depends on how long you’ve been together and how well things have gone. 

You shouldn’t be too concerned if he’s committed to at least seeing you and providing you with anything other than being in bed with you and if your relationship with him is still very new.

However, if you’ve been dating for a long time, this could be an indication that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.

He has other women he wants to visit and a relationship would only get in the way.

17. He keeps forgetting the plans that you make together

It’s OK if he doesn’t recall the time you had a major disagreement with someone at work and haven’t spoken to them since.

On the other hand, if he forgets everything about you it shows how much he genuinely cares about you.

When a guy shows little interest in you outside of the bedroom, he doesn’t remember your dates, stories, chats, or birthdays.

If this is an ongoing issue that annoys you, you should at the very least modify your expectations of him before acting.

18. He talks about his ex often and stuck in his past

He won’t look forward to the future if he’s locked in the past. At the very least, there isn’t one with you.

Men who have unresolved conflicts or emotional attachments to their ex-wives will never be able to see other potential partners properly.

Instead of dealing with the effects of their previous relationships, they would search out other possibilities as rebounds or distractions.

So, if you’re dealing with a man who constantly refers to his ex, compares you to her or becomes lost in his thoughts whenever his ex is mentioned, you should take a closer look at his mind and feelings.

19. You are always confused about the things that are happening between you both

It’s fine to sometimes feel confused about where things are going.

As you enjoy an intimate experience with someone you love, life comes in the way of presenting opportunities, disappointments, drama, issues, and clarity.

It’s normal for things to be hazy at the beginning of a relationship because you’re still getting to know each other and trying to figure out what the other’s goals are.

You go about your dating life hoping for the best.

This honeymoon period is exciting since everything is a mystery to be discovered but as you grow to know each other more, it should shift into a more comfortable phase.

When it remains directionless for too long this exciting mystery can turn into anxiety.

Add in just a few pleasant memories here and there and you’ll find it difficult to let go of the person who clearly doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you but stays because he enjoys your company.

20. You are just tired and mentally exhausted because of him

You’ll become exhausted, emotionally drained, and burned out after waiting or hoping for the guy you really want to just be with you for far too long.

You’ll get tired of this hazy, irritating, and sometimes toxic relationship with no solid base.

You’ll discover that no matter how much you love this guy, you’ll never be satisfied dealing with his lack of commitment to you.

It will become clear to you that settling for a few moments of happiness, passion, and love with him while also settling for doubts, disagreements, and concern about where things will go next between you isn’t a joyful life.

21. He recently has a heartbreak

Men have feelings too. Maybe they’ve had bad experiences with women in the past and are unable to fall in love with another lady. Perhaps he is too engaged in the past and is unable to let go of the pain.

Maybe his ex has left a deep scar on his heart by breaking his trust or he now feels incapable of being loved by a woman.

These are all signs that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you because he is afraid and insecure.

His broken heart will not allow him to fall in love with another lady. It’s most likely an indication that boys give you.

22. He is not ready for a big change in his life right now

He may be scared of the upcoming major change in his life.

For instance, suppose you started dating a guy and he starts freaking out because your friends and family are already talking about the two of you moving in together

Or maybe they’re wearing matching couple shirts or he’s just afraid about things taking a serious turn.

Your friends and family encourage you to make it public but he isn’t ready and prefers to keep things private.

Both men and women have different perspectives on relationships. If you add a layer of seriousness to it, you’ll get two different reactions.

23. He doesn’t understand you clearly

If you want to be in a relationship with someone, you need to be able to communicate well with them. There should be effective communication every time you speak.

There will be no excuses, no lies, and no discussion of taking a break later. You want a wonderful experience with him that you can have every day, right?

You want to spend all of your time with him, and you love him. Perhaps you want to know if he wants to be in a relationship with you.

But how would he know? What if he thinks you’re seeking for nothing more than a brief fling?

He may believe you are seeing other men and is afraid of being rejected if he proposes the idea of having a long-term relationship with you.

24. He likes to remain single

There are some men who would rather be unmarried for the rest of their lives. But they have a plan that they only seek women for sexual pleasure. That is all there is to it.

They only do one thing that is sleep around, have sex, and refuse to commit to women. They date a woman, sweet-talk her, grab her number and possibly introduce you to his friends or family, just in case?

After a few days, he expresses a desire in having sexual relations with you.

And you believe that nothing is wrong because his words and actions are correct.

It means they’re only interested in flings, sex, and talking whenever they want.

25. He is looking for someone else

If I had a simple way of explaining relationships to women, I would say that a man is not a man if you are his second option.

Seriously, the meaning of a relationship may change from time to time. However, if he is seeing someone else while you are seeing him, he is not interested in a relationship with you.

When he is the guy who is out there not caring about you anymore, don’t look for indications.

These guys don’t want to be in a relationship with you because all they want is your phone number. Don’t waste your time talking to him.

Don’t even think about going on a date with him. Because he’s made it clear that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.

26. He only sees girls as an object and wants to use you

There are some men who don’t think it’s wrong to use women. They dress like men, date like men, and love like men but they don’t feel like men.

It’s simple for them to mislead ladies since they first become friends with you before revealing their true colors. They act like your dream partner but when you ask for something, they get busy.

If they want anything, they’ll phone you at 3 a.m. They want to get to know you and talk to you at times you don’t consider suitable.

It’s all about what he wants, not your desires. They’ll look you up on social media and follow you everywhere if they want something.

They’ll look you up on social media and follow you everywhere if they want something.

27. He is asking for extra time to think about your future plans with him

A relationship is a sacred bond. There is a beginning and initiation of love and commitment to each other in any relationship. 

“Hey, the search is finished,” you could think. “I’ve found my future husband.” 

Let’s talk about marriage for a moment. “I am ecstatic.” “Let’s meet each other’s families first, create a goal, and worry about financial stability,” the guy would say.

Men are afraid of commitment in a relationship when they think like this.

They don’t want to jump into naming it and acting on a whim. A man requires time to make important life decisions.

He will declare he is ready if he wants to be in a relationship with you. Otherwise, he might be showing indicators that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now.

28. He doesn’t know what he wants

A man who is interested in getting into a relationship is unlike any other. He simply has no idea what he wants out of life.

A man seeking love seeks a solution to his quest. He considers what might go wrong and what might go right. When he isn’t sure what he wants, he acts strangely.

For example, he is a man who enjoys traveling and pursuing a job. However, he wants to be in a relationship with you.

As a result, he has lost track of what his feelings are trying to tell him. However, if he notices you it may be an issue. Because he won’t understand what you desire from him as if it is a terrible situation

29. He feels bored with you

When a man is in love with you, he will never tire of you. If he is intentionally keeping himself busy and not giving you the attention or love you deserve.

He is not a man with whom you should consider forming a relationship. Because he’s thinking the same thing.

These are the worst types of men who enter into relationships solely to destroy a woman’s life. Disgraceful! First, they spend the majority of their time with you and then leave you when they become bored.

That’s a form of hypocrisy. That is something you should avoid.

30. He is making excuses for not giving you enough time

You always want to be active with the things that matter while you’re looking for a long-term relationship with someone.

If he has recently been busy with his phone or prefers to spend much of his time alone.

They will make time for you if he wants a meaningful connection with you. He’ll call you and inquire about your buddies and your day.

If you notice he isn’t putting out any effort or isn’t making time for you. Then it’s clear that he’s only interested in wasting your time.

31. He acts more like a friend to you

Life can be complicated at times. It takes time to fall in love with someone and one method to do it is through dating.

On the other hand, a friendship can develop into a relationship. Many couples started out as best friends before starting on a romantic journey.

The signals were probably there for you to accept this portion of your life. 

Misunderstandings can break up friendships. Like being committed, he probably doesn’t need you anymore or he wants to find a solution to this but can’t. He’s tired and angry.

The causes can be numerous but they are always terrible.

If you’re in this circumstance, it’s likely that he just wants to keep you around because he doesn’t want to lose you as a friend.

32. He is controlling you

There are numerous indicators that he does not want to be in a relationship with you.

Finding the one who is the most like you might be difficult. If you’re looking for signs, let me ask you this, is he a control freak?

Is he being overly protective of you? Is he following you across the internet as well? Is he following you around?

He does not respect your privacy or boundaries as evidenced by signs like these. He’s trying to convince you that he’s the only one for you. That he isn’t!

33. He is dependent on you

If your man is lazy, unemployed, and uninterested in working. And if the lady is his financial support, he will only keep you for financial reasons.

You’ve given him unlimited powers to do anything he wants. If you believe you are the only one who pays for food, rent, or anything else.

If your pocket is the only thing that satisfies his social demands, then he’s merely keeping you around for the money.

34. He is scared of changes and adjustments in life

He doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you if he doesn’t accept and apply adjustments.

He likes it just the way it is, casual sex, talking, dating with no hint of seriousness. He is content with his existing status and has no desire to change it.

He is uncomfortable talking about life and important issues and he attempts to avoid the subject of commitment.

35. He loves to flirt only 

Some men simply refuse to commit. They’re terrified of the word itself because they’re the type who enjoys flirting with various women. 

He enjoys talking with any woman he comes across. However, she is never serious about wanting to be in a relationship.

This is something he does over and over in his life. You’ll just get broken promises from him.

He could be looking for casual relationships or sex.

Men like that should not be trusted right away because they are signals that he isn’t interested in having a serious relationship with you.

His act is strange and he has a hard time connecting with people on a deep level.

But if it cannot be avoided then let it be a lesson for you. And you should just move on to find ‘The One.’

36. He is not so responsible when it comes to you

Acting like a responsible adult so early in a relationship may be tough for some men. He may not be ready to care for you yet.

He may feel bound to do so but he is initially apprehensive because caring for someone is a great duty.

He is afraid of all the things that come with being in a relationship and he believes that simply enjoying the moment is sufficient.

If he keeps you around simply to avoid taking responsibility in a relationship, the signs that he doesn’t want anything to do with you are clear.

37. He isn’t the first one to contact you most of the times

This is one of the obvious signals that he isn’t interested in you and unfortunately, most women are so captivated that they ignore it.

We’re here to remind you of the same thing. Consider it a concern if he does not make an effort to reach out.

You’re the one that constantly texts and calls him. He never initiates a conversation but he does respond to it most of the time.

And he never sends you a text first. It’s almost like you’re pressuring him into speaking with you. 

Guys will sometimes avoid contacting you by text or phone because they don’t want to appear desperate. If this is a repeating pattern, it’s a sign that he’s unhappy.

38. He doesn’t get jealous when you are with another man

Possessiveness is defined by jealousy. If he sees his girl with someone else becomes a little jealous, whether he shows it or not. You can know he’s upset by his body language even if he doesn’t say anything.

See how he reacts to flirting or getting near to other guys. It’s a big clue that he’s not into you if he doesn’t even notice what you’re doing with other guys.

39. You are the only one who makes plans and he never does so

Are you the one to make plans all the time? It could be one of the obvious indicators he isn’t into you if he isn’t interested in trying to have a nice time with you.

When you construct a strategy and seek his input, he offers you vague answers and urges you to make your own decisions.

You may believe that this is a normal guy trait and all men are like this, but this is not the case. It’s because he doesn’t want to plan anything at all.

Do you have the impression that you’re pressuring him to make plans with you? This could be a red indicator as well.

Consider the latter if you’re often left wondering, “Is he busy or not interested?”

40. He doesn’t know anything about you

The more time a couple spends together, the more they learn about one another. A person who is interested in you will inquire about you from your close friends as well. 

In his case, you know everything there is to know about him, but he knows nothing about you.

Is he familiar with your favorite flowers, foods, restaurants, movies, or colors? Do you think he treats you as if you’re a stranger?

If he doesn’t bother to ask about you, you can ensure he’s no longer interested in you.

If he is concerned about how your day went and how you spend your free time or what is truly going on in your life, it is most likely because he is not interested.

41. He is not emotionally attached to you

Your guy is always in a bad mood. Even when you’re in a bad mood, he doesn’t seem to notice and you can’t count on him to console you. It’s because you don’t have any emotional ties to each other.

Love and feelings are developed from an emotional link but you and your partner lack that bond.

You may be captivated by him which makes it difficult to recognize, believe and accept the indicators that he isn’t interested in you. 

When the emotional gap is there your heart already understands that this isn’t a relationship worth keeping.

42. It’s only about sex for him and nothing else

When he wants to have sex with you, the only time you both communicate is when he wants to have sex with you.

He returns to being his indifferent self after the sex is over. It’s as if your relationship is only built on sexual attraction. 

Do you think you’ll be able to relate to this? Because if you can, consider this a significant red signal in your relationship.

If he thinks it’s too easy to just zip up and walk out after the deal is done, then you need to reconsider what this connection means to him. Perhaps he merely sees it as a one-night stand or a booty-call affair.

43. He is not present in your important events

Because it is so obvious, this is one of the warning signals he isn’t into you. Imagine it’s your birthday and you’re looking forward to celebrating it with him.

He cancels on you due to a more pressing matter that has ‘suddenly’ arisen.

Emergency commitments arise from time to time and one cannot avoid them. It’s what he does after that that matters. Is he going to make apologies or is he going to get away with his excuse?

44. He tells you to date someone else

If he asks you to date, other people, it’s because he wants to date other people or because he doesn’t want to be in a serious relationship right now.

It’s also an indication that he’s not ready for a long-term relationship with you. 

The fact that he tells you to date other people indicates that he isn’t interested in dating or being in a relationship with you. He still considers you as a close friend.

45. He doesn’t talk to you consistently

He’ll text you nonstop one day and then disappear the next. While you might text a few times a week and make the occasional phone call, his communication is inconsistent. 

You never know if you’ll get a “good morning” today or if you’ll hear crickets. His inconsistent communication isn’t just a sign of his unreliability, it might also indicate that he’s texting other women.

46. You are not his number one priority

When a man is truly interested in you, he treats you like a queen (in a good way).

It doesn’t mean he puts the crown on your head, but it does mean he pays attention to your thoughts, makes room in his life for you, cancels plans to spend more time with you, and so on.

If he doesn’t show up for a date or doesn’t call to let you know he’ll be late, he’s clearly unconcerned with your feelings.

Signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you anymore

Has his feeling changed? 

Is he not interested in the relationship anymore? 

This situation can be very painful when a guy whom you love the most doesn’t picture the future with you anymore and seems distracted.

However, he doesn’t tell you to part ways directly but you notice some changes in his behavior and you want to find out.

You are now looking for some signs that he doesn’t love you any more or needs space. Below are the absolute signs to identify the changes. So, let’s roll.

47. He gets irritated with the little things you do

He is irritated by everything you do.

Even the tiniest things you do upset him. Those quirks about you that he used to find adorable and adore now seem to grate on his nerves.

You’re confused as to why your laugh upsets him. Even the way you cuddle him while watching a movie makes him feel uncomfortable now.

It could be because you irritate him, he’s tired, or he’s going through a difficult period.

However, because you know him better and if you can’t see what’s bothering him — take this as a clue that he’s rethinking his emotions for you.

48. He does not apologize for the mistakes anymore

He would do things to hurt you on time. But he’ll simply ignore it and refuse to apologize.

If you get the feeling he’s arguing with you for a reason, that’s a red flag. It shows that he no longer cares about your feelings.

He could be using this as an excuse to end your relationship.

49. He gets angry often without any reason

What started off as a nice relationship is quickly turning into a horror film.

He gets angry and impatient at everything when you’re together. His tolerance level is decreasing, and his fuse is getting shorter.

He yells at you for the smallest of offenses. You can almost hear him scream as he demands that you leave.

Don’t be surprised by this behavior. It’s a troubling sign that he no longer loves you.

You’re in a toxic relationship that’s slowly killing you of your sanity.

50. You don’t feel happy and comfortable around him

You have no idea why you feel this way towards him. Why?

Because you sense that your lover no longer loves you, he’s projecting that strange vibe onto you.

You’re worried about what will happen to your relationship, therefore you’re concerned. You’re rejected and at war with yourself.

You can’t believe his feelings for you have transformed into something else.

51. He disagrees with you most of the times

In any relationship, there will be disagreements and differences.

But when he refuses to compromise or resolve even little issues, it’s a recipe for disaster.

You can also see how he begins to overdo everything and picks on you at every opportunity.

If he does this frequently, take it as a hint that something isn’t quite right with his affections for you.

52. He doesn’t share anything with you 

He used to tell you about his day and talk about anything with you, from how he was feeling to how his day went.

But now he’s turned off, withdrawn, and refused to speak.

It’s normal if he wants to work on his own or if he’s going through a period of withdrawal.

But it’s not normal if he refuses to speak to you for an extended length of time. It’s a sign that he’s lost interest in your relationship.

53. He ignores your texts and calls

When a relationship matures, it’s normal for texting and calling to decrease. It’s a different story when he takes an age to respond to your messages.

Worst of all, he ignores your messages and does not return your calls.

It’s difficult to accept, but this is a clear sign that he no longer wants to hear from you.

54. He doesn’t initiate eye contact with you anymore

Couples prefer to talk and message each other 24 hours a day, seven days a week in the early stages of a relationship. Everything is intense and you want to be in contact with everyone at all times.

As the relationship continues, this slows down and you feel more at ease with one other.

However, something is wrong if you are the only one who continually checks in. If you didn’t call or write to him, you won’t hear from him.

55. He doesn’t spend time with you anymore

If he loves you, he will make time for you, no matter how busy he is.

You’re carving out time because you care about him, no matter how preoccupied you are with what you’re doing.

What about him though?

I’m sure he still has time to play or hang out with his pals. When you want to see him or go on a date, he tells you he’s busy and makes excuses.

Perhaps he’s avoiding you because he doesn’t know how to deal with the possibility that the relationship is gone. He most likely no longer wants to spend time with you.

Your relationship may be coming to an end, which is a shame.

56. He doesn’t make you feel better

Knowing that you can count on someone is one of the sweetest feelings in a relationship.

When things get tough, you know someone is working to improve your attitude or cheer you up.

This was something your boyfriend used to do but things have changed today. When you tell him you’re having trouble, he simply ignores you.

If this happens, take it as a sign that he no longer cares about how you’re feeling or what you’re going through.

57. He doesn’t notice how you look

He used to be jealous of the way you dressed when you went out. He used to adore your smile and the way you spoke with a shine in your eyes.

He frequently compliments you on how gorgeous you look, even if your hair is a mess, and how fresh you smell, even after you’ve gone to the gym.

He used to shower you with compliments. However, he no longer pays attention to you.

Is he going to mind if you start shaving your head? Would he be bothered in the least?

58. He is not showing interest in your life anymore

You used to discuss your day, your friends, your family, or your dreams about him. He pays attention and has an interest in learning more about it.

But he doesn’t seem to be interested in anything you’re sharing recently.

He never tries to inquire about your day. He has no memory of what you said to him the day before. He’s no longer paying attention or listening to you.

Okay, this is a clear sign that he is no longer interested in your life.

59. He is criticizing and putting you down

You’re confused as to why he’s been acting so strange lately.

When you’re with other people, he makes those humiliating jokes, criticizes you, and even says unpleasant things.

Even if he is joking around, you can tell that his jokes are more personal. Your ego is being destroyed by the way he insults you in front of others.

Unfortunately, he does not treat you with the respect that you deserve. In a relationship, disrespect isn’t a good sign at all.

60. He stops making you happy

Everything that made you feel special and loved has gone.

He simply isn’t interested in your needs any longer. He is only interested in doing things on his own. He used to be attentive to your and your relationship needs but times have changed.

When he stopped caring about you and investing time and energy in your relationship, it could be a sign that your relationship is ending.

Signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you Quiz

If you are still confused to identify if he wants a relationship with you or not, then take the quiz below and find out now.

1. Does he give you compliments?

  • Sometimes
  • Yes
  • No
  • I don’t know 

2. Do you feel that he wants to make the relationship work?

  • Sometimes
  • Yes
  • No
  • I don’t know 

3. Does he still go out of his way to talk to you and spend time with you?

  • Sometimes
  • Yes
  • No
  • I don’t know 

4. Does he include you in his decision-making and consider you when making decisions?

  • Sometimes
  • Yes
  • No
  • I don’t know 

5. Does he want to initiate physical touch?

  • Sometimes
  • Yes
  • No
  • I don’t know 

6. Does he still seem to go out of his way to do things to make you smile or that he knows you will enjoy?

  • Sometimes
  • Yes
  • No
  • I don’t know 

7. Does he still appreciate you and does he make sure to tell you that?

  • Sometimes
  • Yes
  • No
  • I don’t know 

8. Does he still do things that show you he cares about you?

  • Sometimes
  • Yes
  • No
  • I don’t know 

9. Do you argue a lot?

  • Sometimes, but nothing too serious
  • Frequently, sometimes about the smallest things
  • Not really anymore, it seems like he doesn’t even care anymore

10. Do you think he still loves you?

  • I do
  • I am not sure
  • I don’t think so
  • Yes, he is


1. Why does he act like my boyfriend but claim that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me?

Here are a few reasons:

– Because you accept the behavior, even though you don’t receive the exclusivity label from him.
– Being a cute woman by their side might help them earn more respect, approval and attention from others.
– He’s afraid of wasting more of his time and energy (which comes with having a relationship).

2. How do I know if he’s just taking advantage of me?

You must not be distracted by his coming on strong (since men come on strong when they’re serious about and when they’re just looking for sex), so you must determine which one it is.

And the only way to figure it out is to test, test and test.

Many women are used by men because they are afraid of admitting what their gut tells them is real, or because they are afraid of testing in case it is “manipulative.”

Let me assure you that deceiving him and disrespecting his time, work and effort is only manipulative if you’re doing it to abuse him.

Whether you’re doing it to test if he’ll agree to something, it’s not manipulative.

3. How can you stop chasing a man who isn’t interested in you?

You can become aware of the reality of his indifference or dislike for you. You do it by observing his behavior rather than his words. And you allow his behaviors to generate the emotions you require.

You can better calibrate yourself and walk away once you feel these required feelings.

4. What should I do if a guy isn’t interested in me?

Allow yourself to be hurt. Allow yourself to be angry by it. Let your hurt and anger push you in a more positive direction for your self-esteem.

Remember: pursuing the attention of a person who isn’t invested in you will break you down and spoil your energy and value for the man who will value you.

By the way, if you want to make the process of getting your selected man to commit to you as simple as possible, I’d be happy to assist you.

Showing up as the one and only lady makes the commitment process easier (and reduces a man’s commitment resistance).

5. Is there a second woman? What are the warning signs to look out for?

Macho behavior, going to the gym, trying new diets, guarding his phone, and a slew of other indicators indicate he’s dating someone else. 

The best way to figure out whether he’s lying or not is to utilize a very discreet app. It may be secretly installed on any mobile device.

It will tell you his current position, the substance of his messages, the history of his phone calls, his contact book, and his social media activity.

6. When guys like you, why do they act distant?

It’s usually related to a fear of commitment and a lack of confidence. He may decide to postpone things if he doesn’t know you well enough to determine if he’s ready to step up or if he’s not convinced you’re compatible.

Even in their thirties, some guys act like children. They may be hesitant to share their feelings because they are self-conscious, have friends who would tease them for being in love, or they want to keep you engaged, among other reasons.

7. If a guy isn’t interested, why would he text you?

Because he still wants a casual affair with you, which includes sex, drinks, having fun together, conversing, and whatever else you provide him that he needs, which is why he texts you.

Perhaps he has learned to adapt to your presence and now feels empty without it.

8. How can you tell if he’s losing interest in you?

It’s that easy. Is he avoiding contact? Is he putting forth the same effort as before?

Any relationship requires time and energy and if he feels burdened, it’s natural that he could lose interest in the concept of staying with you.

9. How can you tell whether he has feelings for you?

If you look into his eyes as a woman, you can tell he’s in love with you right away.

Being hot and cold, he can act in a variety of ways, but his eyes always reveal the truth.

10. If he doesn’t want me, why does he keep me around?

Because having you around benefits him more than letting you go. Why should he let you go if you’re not causing issues and he can enjoy sex and friendship with you?

Keep in mind that having one woman in the background is preferable to having no woman at all.

A word from ThePleasantRelationship

The simplest way to determine whether or not someone wants to be in a relationship with you is to look for signs. If he displays any of the signs listed above, you already know the answer. 

Commitment requires a great deal of trust, responsibility, and time. It’s not meant for you if you’re in a situation where you don’t see anything good happening.

If he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you then ask for a reason. No one should risk their future by dating someone who is clearly not interested in making you his girlfriend.

You are unique and worthy of someone who will love you unconditionally!