If you’re going through a rough patch in your relationship and wonder whether things will improve, check for signs that your relationship is beyond repair.
While the media shows that two people in love can stick together through thick and thin, the reality is harsh. You really can’t tell how long your heart can stand the test of time. After all, love isn’t some fix-it-all glue!
So, let’s take a dip to know what awaits your future here!
28 Signs your relationship is beyond repair
In long-term relationships, you ignore the major red flags because you can’t imagine a life without your partner. You are too comfortable to start from square one, so you carry on being together even if things don’t sit right with you.
However, you can never force a relationship. Eventually, you will burst and smash the shackles. So, if you’re wondering whether your relationship will really get better with time, keep reading!
1. You are being abused
Abuse, despite the type, is the ultimate red flag for relationships. You must get out of your relationship as soon as possible if you are getting abused in your relationship.
Violence can make it difficult for you to leave your partner. So, you must take outside help.
2. You seldom talk
Communication is the backbone of every healthy relationship. It helps couples to understand each other’s thoughts, feelings, and needs. Along with increasing intimacy, it also helps to avoid misunderstandings.
So, one of the biggest signs that your relationship is beyond repair is when you barely talk to each other.
3. You are a bit afraid of each other
When you are afraid of your partner and vice versa, you can neither talk freely nor act like your own self.
This is the ultimate roadblock to your bond. Of course, you can try to make things work mutually. However, if you’re at the point of no return, your relationship can’t be mended.
4. You rarely hang out with each other
To make a relationship work out, you must spend significant time with each other.
But, if you cancel all your dates and you rarely see each other’s faces, it is obvious that your relationship will soon fail.
5. One of you is probably cheating
Some relationships recover from adultery, and things work out. But, most of the time, the partner being cheated on can’t carry on the hurt in the long run and gives up.
So, another sign that your relationship is beyond repair is when either of you has cheated. This breaks the other person’s trust, making it hard to regain their confidence.
6. The relationship does not feel worth it
Do you often feel that your relationship is not worth the effort?
Is all the love lost, and are none of your needs met?
If you answered yes and feel that there is really nothing you get out of your relationship, the fallout of your relationship is as clear as the day!
7. You don’t trust each other
If you always worry about your partner’s whereabouts or try to limit their interactions with others, that’s another warning sign.
Well, a little bit of insecurity and jealousy in a relationship is normal, but you cannot claim to love someone if you don’t trust them.
So, if that is the case, it is quite explicit that your relationship is beyond repair.
8. You go on and off
An on-and-off relationship is where you keep breaking up and making up with your partner.
In this sort of relationship, partners break up and separate because they never work on their issues.
If you’re stuck in this vicious cycle, you guys will obviously call the quits for good.
9. There is no joy
People get into relationships to find happiness in someone else’s company. So, there is really no point in a relationship if there is no joy in it.
If the both of you are always angry or miserable in each other’s presence, the relationship won’t last.
10. You don’t feel fulfilled
Everyone has a different definition of a fulfilling relationship. Some might need to spend a lot of quality time with their partner, and others might need a lot of space.
Whatever your wants are, to feel fulfilled in your relationship, your partner must meet your preferences.
But if they don’t agree with your ways, you’ll feel unfulfilled in your connection. And this will eventually lead to a hurtful end to your bond.
11. There is no intimacy
Intimacy keeps you bound to each other and helps the relationship “stay alive.” Without all or most forms of intimacy in your connection, the relationship cannot last.
So, if you can’t remember the last time you hugged, talked your hearts out, or had sex, the situation looks grim!
12. You want different things in life
If the future you desire doesn’t align with that of your partner, it won’t be long before you break up.
For instance, you want to travel the world, while your partner wants to settle down in one place and have a family. Or, only one of you wants children.
Two people cannot possibly spend their life together if they want different things in life.
13. You’re secure only when you’re physically together
It is impossible to spend all your time with someone… even if that’s the love of your life. Not only do you not have the time, but you also need a little distance from your partner from time to time.
So, if you only feel secure when you are physically present with each other, it is almost impossible to save the relationship.
14. It often gets toxic
Toxic relationships can come in different forms. They are often filled with a lack of trust, excessive jealousy, and controlling behaviors. They strip away your self-worth, and getting out of them can be quite difficult.
So, if your relationship is toxic, it can’t withstand the seasons of life!
15. You don’t know how to act around each other
Partners must be able to be their truest selves in romantic relationships. However, if being vulnerable is out of the question, and if you don’t even know how to act around each other, then there is really no point in saving the relationship.
Of course, if it hasn’t been a month since you started dating, this sign isn’t for you!
16. Neither of you makes the slightest effort
Love is not enough to sustain a relationship. You need to put in effort to nurture a relationship, communicate better, foster intimacy, and make enough time for each other.
Reminisce the last time you compromised to make your partner happy. Perhaps you got rid of a bad habit or avoided one of their pet peeves.
But if you hardly ever make such efforts, the relationship is bound to fail.
17. You can’t imagine having a future with them
When you love someone, you include them in your future. So, another sign that your relationship is beyond repair is when you can’t even imagine a future with your partner. Deep inside, you know that your relationship is not going to survive.
18. You feel indifferent toward each other
In relationships, you can overcome anger with a little bit of love. But there is really no going back if you and your partner feel only indifference towards each other.
19. You’re walking on eggshells
Your relationship can’t last or be repaired if you always feel that anything you do will make them angry. This happens when your partner often gets angry at the slightest issues, making you scared of their reaction.
20. Your partner only supports and loves you when you are happy
It’s easy to love someone when they are at their best. But life is eventually going to kick in, and bad days will always come.
So, another sign that your relationship is bound to fail is when your partner only loves and supports you when you are happy.
21. You avoid each other’s friends and family
It’s not abnormal to have differences with one or two of your partner’s friends and family. But there is definitely a problem if both of you are always avoiding each other’s crew.
You know that things will not last, so you are keeping your distance from your partner’s loved ones. Probably, neither of your beliefs and values align, which will ultimately ruin everything.
22. You never give each other compliments
When you love someone, you will like everything about them. Your hormones will make you go gaga over most things about each other. Of course, you will have differences, but it will be mostly compliments and sweet nothings!
But, if you never compliment each other, it means that you have turned apathetic toward each other and that things can’t work out.
23. You are codependent
Codependency is like a slow poison to relationships and partners. It completely makes people lose their sense of self and independence.
Remember to make your relationship work out, you both need to give each other space and have healthy boundaries. It is not really love if our individuality is hampered by it.
So, if you’re codependent on each other, you will eventually crumble your relationship!
24. You are always fighting
Little arguments once in a while keep your relationship healthy. But if arguments appear out of nowhere and over the smallest things, then there is a problem.
Moreover, if your fights always blow out of proportion, your relationship has probably run its term.
25. You turn to other people with your needs
Relationships can only work out if two people support each other through thick and thin.
But if you seek others and can’t open up to your partner, you have already given up on the relationship.
26. Things went south after the honeymoon phase ended
During the honeymoon phase, everything in a relationship seems perfect. You look at your partners through rose-tinted glasses and are barely aware of each other’s flaws.
But beyond that phase begins your true journey through rain and shine as each other’s comrade!
However, if you lose your feelings or feel you don’t even like your partner after the honeymoon phase, your relationship is bound to fail. Probably, you guys were only infatuated with each other!
27. You resent each other
If you or your partner made mistakes and you haven’t forgiven each other yet, that’s another way to end your relationship.
Resentment and not being able to overlook the past can ruin the joy of your relationship.
But this isn’t an ultimate sign. You both can still work out your grudges against each other. Otherwise, you’ll eventually fall apart.
28. You fantasize about your relationship getting better
If you know that your relationship is on the rocks and believe things will improve, that’s still okay!
However, if you have that faith but make no effort to improve the situation, in due course, chances are that it probably won’t.
You only expect your partner to change, but you don’t have a timeline. This will only lead to grave disappointments and a bitter breakup.
A word from ThePleasantRelationship
Remember that simple signs don’t define your relationship, no matter how many of these boxes check out. You and your partner still have the power to change the situation.
So, before something bad happens, communicate and figure out if there’s a solution or seek couples therapy.
But if nothing works out, choose what makes you happy… even if that means not being together!
Surabhi wakes up every day with a drive to craft words that can create a soulful impact. Creatively adventurous, she is always seeking to learn new skills and acquire new experiences. With a hidden soft corner for languages (especially Urdu), she writes poetry occasionally, binges on romantic shows, and LOVES to talk. A hustler, admirer, chaser, Surabhi is just another-someone who refused to give up on her dreams. She says, she is just somebody who’s trying to make herself a writer and for now, she’s just writing...