Instead of asking yourself: Is my boyfriend cheating? Why is he paying attention to other women? …and tons of other blood-curdling questions.
Take some time and instead, identify the signs… and face it head-on if you find something’s fishy.
When someone is two-timing, their significant other can immediately sense it in their gut.
However, is that gut feeling enough to blame a person and throw some strong-headed questions? Nope. That is not how it works.
While it is true that communication is the key, it is never a bad idea to be sure before coming face to face with them.
Put on your detective hat and dive right into these not-so-obvious signs.
Is my boyfriend cheating? – 50 signs to find out
Losing your beauty sleep because you feel your boyfriend is acting suss? I know this is a hard time. But, you are certainly not the only one.
Alexa, play call out my name by The Weeknd!
It doesn’t matter how hard you try to make yourself believe that your man is innocent.
Men cheat even after being in long-term relationships, and no matter how much you believe in the rosy world, the fact still remains the same.
So, let’s dig the dirt, if any, with these 50 signs.
1. He is present, but not in the moment.
It is hard to believe that the man who did not shake an eyelid while having a conversation is seldom interested in your topics now.
You keep ranting about the lost spark only to end up feeling worse. All in all, you feel disconnected.
Unconditional love means that one must shower their partner with all the attention they deserve. And this shouldn’t be forced or faked… It should spring candidly.
While spending some “lovey-dovey time” came to you both naturally earlier, your honey is giving you a tough time now.
It is difficult to recall from when, but he is just not interested in you…… What a bummer!
2. What’s more important than you?
What can be more important than you? Work?…
I’m sure there are a dozen such questions exhausting your brain every crazy second. ‘Calm down!’ is easier said than done in these situations.
Your boyfriend says that he is drowned in work and has been overloaded but, who knows the reality! Especially when all the changes are so abrupt…
He stays away for long periods without prior notice and then tries to cover it up with unnecessary explanations.
If you do not believe his long-written stories and feel that your gut knows the “truth”. It is an alarming sign, babe!
3. Love is blind, they say!
Have you spoken to someone about it? If not, you must. I’m not asking you to approach any random person who comes your way. Look for someone you trust and have a one-on-one with them.
It’s true that Love makes us Blind – and no one can escape it – neither you nor me.
This is why your well-wishers can spot the negatives in your love life, which you probably cannot.
It will be far easier for them to point out the flaws in your boyfriend and tell you if they see any cheating signs or not.
Trust me, sometimes it gives you a whole new perspective… and a new light that you didn’t even know existed.
4. He fights over trivial matters.
Fights are common in all kinds of relationships. If you are being told by a couple that they don’t fight at all, they are lying!
But fights don’t mean you start arguing on trivial matters like why did you get home so late or you didn’t do the dishes last night.
If your honey has started to fight over insignificant stuff, he is just trying to find ways to escape this relationship.
If you both just fought because you watched a movie while he was in a meeting, Oh! Lady, it’s just another trick to get off.
In a nutshell, he is misbehaving and being a bad boy, so that you call it off!
5. He seems frustrated and lost.
Besides the insignificant fights, there is something else that you need to check.
Has he started to make a frowning face? Have the smiles suddenly turned into wrinkled temples on his forehead?
Your love is feeling frustrated and lost inside… this is because he is dealing with his own mood swings.
He simply doesn’t know if he loves you anymore! Probably, he is attracted to some other girl, and that feeling leaves him guilty and agitated.
In simple words, you are just not able to get your mind around his behavior.
Sometimes he is like: Ok! Let’s Call It Off! And the next moment, he cannot see you weeping…
6. He feels dispensable.
If you’ve hurt his ‘Hero Instinct’ then, then my girl, there’s a high chance he is trying to distance himself.
Well, a man feels loved when he feels essential to a woman. If you make him feel like he’s dispensable, you’re calling trouble for your own relationship.
If a man truly loves you, he would want to satisfy your needs beyond casual love and sex life.
Similarly, if a man truly cares for you, he would want to provide you with all the comforts that he can. It’s a biological drive.
According to psychologist James Bauer, it’s a hero instinct. If the hero Instinct is satisfied, the man will invest ALL in the relationship.
But, the opposite will make him feel worthless, and ultimately, he will give up on the relationship.
7. You don’t know anything about his timetable.
Oh! You used to feel so proud for knowing all his timings and routines! But now, the sudden changes leave you awestruck…
The change in his everyday routine is alarming, of course.
But, wait. Hold on! Before overthinking, try to observe the changes. Does he leave early and return late? Does he work 6 days a week (instead of 5) now?
…and when you try to ask him questions, he loses his calm.
Well, that’s what tricksters usually do.
8. His friends don’t know you anymore.
If your man thinks you’re worth the love and attention, or you’re his ‘dream girl’ then, he would always want to show you off.
He would love to showcase what an amazing girlfriend you are!
But, if his interests, just like his timetables, have drifted, he’s going to avoid you during such occasions.
In fact, there can be a couple of other reasons that make him exclude you from social gatherings.
Perhaps, he feels guilty about his unfaithful activities.
He is well aware that he will not be able to rekindle this relationship, and just wants things to end.
And if he is messing around with other girls, he obviously does not want his friends to reveal his truth.
Eventually, just to avoid all the stress and embarrassment, he tries to keep you away from his friend circle.
9. You’re not in his future plans
When claims like, “Our children will look like you…” changes into “who knows what future holds…”, you must know that there’s nothing left in this relationship.
You die to hear the word “we” from him, but now he is more concerned about I, me, and myself.
Don’t believe him if he says that he wants you to be comfortable and free to make your own decisions… and so keeps the future on hold.
The entire explanation obviously hints to not-so-good intentions.
10. The emotional security is lost!
When a relationship starts, the emotions are at their peak. Partners put all their sweat into understanding each other’s feelings… and making each other feel loved.
However, with time, the trust keeps building. There comes a stage where you can reveal anything to your partner; because you know he isn’t going anywhere.
This comfort comes with time, and you can feel it in the gut.
Similarly, when your boyfriend starts to step back, you can feel the gaping hole.
…and by the time you come up with an explanation about your guy’s behavior, the hole becomes so deep that it becomes almost impossible to cover up.
11. Discovering a new number is an alarm!
Privacy is not the same as hiding. It is alright to not have access to the personal stuff of your boyfriend. That does not imply that he is cheating on you.
Healthy boundaries are good.
But when this boundary gets too rigid, you must take note. If you find your boyfriend talking hours on an unknown number, it is, indeed, disturbing.
But before you dive into any conclusions, ask him about it… if he denies or stutters, there’s definitely something fishy.
12. Your friends alarm you about him.
You are deeply in love with your boo. And so, it is quite natural for you to invest endless trust in him.
Long story short, you love him a lot, to doubt his character, whatsoever!
But if you refuse to drop the blindfolds, you will never know what is going around. It will be easy for your love to constantly pull the wool over your eyes.
It is here that true friends come to the rescue.
Your friends are gonna drag you away from that man if they think he is toxic for you! Do not take their advice lightly when they come to alarm you.
I am not asking you to trust them blindly. But at least give them the benefit of doubt and cross-check the facts. Who knows if they have really caught your boy with another girl?
13. “Guilt gifts” are a dangerous sign.
Is he trying to pamper you with all the luxury in the world? And, the gift is definitely not an engagement ring!
Well, babe, as harsh it may sound, it is all to keep you blind.
Instead of celebrating the luxurious gifts, you need to figure out why he is being so nice all of a sudden… It is time for an inspection, baby!
If this has been his usual behavior, you definitely need not worry about it. But, if it is something abrupt and out of the blue, you have got something fishy to think about.
Perhaps, your love is trying to compensate for his cheating. His interest in another girl is making him feel guilty and he is just trying to substitute his love with the guilt gifts.
14. He is grinning ear-to-ear while texting someone.
If there is a change in your partner while using his smartphone, it is a common indication of cheating.
Your boyfriend may always try to hide his phone the moment you take a peep into his screen.
All the security codes to his phones have changed.
When he is on his phone, he is grinning all the time and doesn’t give a damn about what you’ve to say.
He may try to keep the phone out of your reach. The same phone that he left anywhere in the house carelessly now lies in his pocket, cautiously. ALWAYS. This is enough reason to worry about.
There is a possibility that he is planning a surprise for you, or it is just some office work. So, take my advice and just ask your boyfriend randomly why he is being so secretive, and his reaction will tell it all.
According to counselor and therapist Dr. Tracey Phillips, hiding things on the phone from your partner is a clear sign of cheating, and you should not dismiss it.
15. Catch him in bed!
If the gestures have changed in the bedroom, there are high chances he is having an affair.
But this works both ways.
In some cases, they may not want sex at all.
Like for instance, he will dismiss all your efforts in bed with lame excuses. He will return home tired and go straight to bed.
Sometimes, he may even respond rudely. This is all because he does not want the guilt to engulf him.
While in other cases, some men will want more sex than earlier.
You will find him being extra passionate in bed and being more touchy than usual… This is because he doesn’t want to give you any reason to be sad and dissatisfied… and question him.
You must try initiating a conversation with your man on topics like intimacy and sex. Discuss with him about trying new sex positions and everything.
If you perceive that there is no spark on his face or any extra charm, sweetie, you really need to keep an eye on him.
According to sex expert Robert Weiss, both less sex and more sex in the relationship can be a sign of cheating.
16. Mentioning someone on repeat… or not mentioning them at all
If your boyfriend has found a new woman, his way of conversing about her may differ. Either he will be over expressive or he will be tight-lipped.
When your boyfriend has found a new partner, he will find himself engaged in her thoughts all the time.
It might happen that previously a name that used to come from his mouth regularly, maybe of a colleague or someone he met accidentally, has now suddenly stopped. He is careful about mentioning her.
This might indicate that a minor crush has changed into something more intimate, like an affair.
17. Dazzles his looks all of a sudden
Once men come into a relationship, they do not really bother about their looks. They have successfully impressed the girl… and taking regular baths and wearing fitting clothes should be enough for now!
But, if it takes him long to dress up and make serious efforts to look good like getting a new haircut and developing a skincare routine, then there might be something wrong.
Is he buying new clothes and accessories like watches and shoes?
I mean, he may be doing this to dazzle you… But, what if all of this is to make an impression on someone else!
According to Dr. Phillips in Bustle, “changes in the grooming habits of your man also reveal a lot”.
He might rush into the shower after returning home to get rid of the trails. It may be anything like lipstick marks, love bites, or traces of long hair on his shirt. 😬🤐
18. Two-timing is expensive!
Believe it or not, cheating is costly…. Extremely costly.
If your man is indulged in infidelity and has an affair, his expenses will naturally rise. He will be spending money on the other woman. After all, luxurious hotels, meals, and drinks cost a lot!
He will even buy high-priced gifts for her like diamond jewelry, Gucci bags or Sephora makeup.
If your boyfriend is a working professional, you might not notice this at first. But, yes, eventually, you will find out.
Sneak your way into his pocket and check the bills lying there, I’m sure you will find something suspicious.
If he always surprised you with super-expensive gifts on your birthday but failed this time, then you definitely need to dig in.
Girls, if he is cutting slack on your expenses, then he is spending it elsewhere.
19. He is indifferent instead of being thankful.
You literally don’t deserve a man who cannot appreciate the little efforts you make for him.
Either he does not know how to cherish good things or is guilt-ridden. But either way, you will be happier without him.
It is totally a red flag if he suddenly starts ignoring the delightful things you do for him and picks up a fight every time you strive to make an effort.
All your endeavor to make him feel loved haunts him with all the bad things he has done to you. So, to avoid that, he is dissuading you from being nice to him. What a pity!
20. He is suddenly giving you too much attention!
Is your boyfriend being ultra-attentive to your needs out of nowhere? Ah, girls, don’t jump… it is instead, worrisome.
He might be feeling guilty of cheating on you, and his inner conscience must have woken up. So, the love he is showering on you is just a cover-up.
Yes, of course, he will not admit the fact that he betrayed you, even if you find out. This additional care and flattery are to keep you blinded.
Maybe, he will take you out on romantic date nights or plan a trip somewhere.
It is also possible that he really looks up to a future with you and wants to live up to the promises he made…. And cheated on you in the fluke of the moment.
But… you never know.
21. Let your intuition speak.
Eyes can be deceived… but intuition can’t.
If your instincts are continuously telling you that something is not right, there is a possibility that it’s true.
Trust your intuitions.
But, do not let them overpower you and make you feel insecure. Before taking any step, or pointing a finger towards your partner, gain clarity and gather some strong evidence.
Think. If it is the first time you felt this way about your partner, or you have been doubtful before and proven wrong.
Make sure that your gut feeling is not just an insecurity issue you have been facing from your past relationships… but something worth taking a step forward.
Try to seek more clarity with your boyfriend in general conversations. If you feel unsatisfied, you can go behind his back and look into the matter yourself.
22. People ask: what is wrong?
The endless discord between you and your boyfriend does not go unnoticed all the time.
If your close friends and family members are getting hints of a constant rift between both of you, they are going to warn you. They will obviously want to know what is wrong with you both!
It is then that the changes hit your mind and you start taking note of what is going wrong.
Is it both of you, or is it just him behaving abnormally?
You may be wondering whether at all you should pay attention to the comments passed by outsiders. Maybe, YESSS! But, not everyone, just your loved ones.
23. He tries to threaten you.
This is a warning sign!
If he is blackmailing you or using words like “let us call it quits…” – it’s definitely not normal.
Threats, of any kind, are not a good sign for a relationship. If your guy is madly in love with you, his lips should shake before uttering something rude.
If this is an everyday scene, why would you at all want to continue this?
24. He says “I love you” but with a heavy heart.
If his I Love Yous are hitting the hay, this is a clear indication that his mind is thinking about the girl he’s dating outside the house.
Chivalrous men do not mind confessing their love to their women. But you have to force the words out of his mouth, quite literally.
Honestly, that is not how it should be.
He does not feel comfortable confessing his love because it is not the same anymore.
25. He is faking his disinterest towards her
This girl on your Instagram appears absolutely fake.
I don’t like what she is wearing.
But why is he listing all the negatives of a nobody out-of-the-blue?
The answer is obvious. He wants to tell you that he is not interested in her… when secretly he is.
It’s a trick. We’ve all done that at some point in your life… the reasons may have been different but the strategy stays the same.
Blind your mind with lies so that you can’t find the truth.
26. He criticizes qualities which he once found attractive.
Has he stopped liking the haircut he once loved? Or has he become allergic to your dressing sense?
If you haven’t done a 360-degree makeover, his criticism is absolutely not justified, darling.
Guys start behaving bitterly to their girlfriends when they really hunt for a reason to back off.
Take the cue and find a way out.
27. He does not like to hear compliments from you.
If a man is not being honest with you in his relationship, your compliments will not bring the same smile on his face as before.
While you must be trying hard to make him happy with your words of praise, it irritates him all the more.
At times he might not even react and be rude to you. Instead of thanking you for the compliment, he makes a frowning face and walks away.
Lady, you might feel disheartened and broken. But do not just sit with a blank face.
Instead, work your brain and try to know the cause of such a gesture from his side. This is not what you signed up for.
28. He doesn’t compliment you either.
This is one of the earliest signs of him losing interest in you. He does not like your appearance or personality anymore.
You dress up from top to toe, you keep waiting for the compliment, but you hardly hear one from his side.
Again, this is a clear sign that he has found someone better. In some cases, guys are often seen criticizing their girlfriends before calling it quits.
Ugh, seriously! What a let-down.
29. The night is not young anymore.
He has not just cut down on compliments and romance, but he has also stopped taking you out to dinners and movies. If you persuade him a lot, both of you often end up fighting.
Yes, there are chances that he will take you out, just to avoid the conflicts.
But then, the outings are mostly erratic, without any prior planning or notice. That is because your boyfriend would go with you only in his spare time… when “she” is busy somewhere else.
30. He is adopting someone else’s character.
Is your guy doing something fresh or unusual these days?
Consider what his choices used to be and what they are today. Your guy may be wanting to adapt the character the “girl” likes.
Or perhaps, instead of watching his favorite Cricket League, he is taking a nap in his bedroom.
His favorite choice of ice cream, favorite snacks, favorite sport, favorite political party, and daily habits might take a wayward turn.
You feel he started to behave like a known woman.
When you question him about it, he becomes upset, appearing as if everything is OK while telling you that you are just being paranoid.
31. He accuses you of cheating.
If your partner instead plays the ball on you… there’s a high chance that he is the culprit and he’s trying to change the course!
He is simply turning the table onto you and reversing the game so that he can slip off with a clean chit.
Is he constantly skeptical or uncomfortable about whatever you do? Then, my girl, he is just trying to project his guilt on you.
Well, Little does he know that Uno reverse works only in the game, not in reality.
32. He returns home drunk.
You open the door and see your boyfriend has returned from his daily errand. You spread your arms for a hug and the smell… Urgh!
YOU ARE DRUNK!
If your boyfriend used to drink often earlier, I do not have anything to say. But if he has picked up this habit all of a sudden and returns home drunk every alternative day, it’s absolutely a warning sign.
Your boyfriend might be guilty about cheating on you and trying to escape reality by devouring himself in drinks.
Or, he may just want to avoid your presence… physically and mentally.
So, spends a few hours at the bar and when he returns home smashed, he is mentally not efficient enough to make conversations.
I know it is sad, but that is how it is…
33. He says, “You deserve better”.
Maybe he was always romantic, but now he is as unrealistic as Ryan Gosling was in The Notebook.
He spoils you with love and makes you feel more cherished than ever before. He may be trying to tend to his guilt by making you happy.
This is an emotional and witty way of getting rid of you. He is trying to make you feel that you deserve better than him.
You might feel overrated and proud enough with these compliments at first, but eventually decide to leave him because now you really think there’s someone better waiting for you, out there.
Watch out for your conversations…
Your boyfriend will probably say, “I do not deserve you…”. And, if he has gathered enough courage, he will simply call it off someday and be like: YOU DESERVE BETTER!
34. There is a clear communication gap.
You do not talk to each other as much as you used to. Back in the day, your phone wouldn’t stop ringing.
But now you both go for hours without speaking to each other. And it is not because your bae is overworked.
Even on dates, there are long periods of silence.
You would be seated in the same room and would still not have anything to talk about. Hours pass, and you are still on your phones, doing something completely different.
To make matters worse, while you are together, your boyfriend appears to be more engaged in what is going on with his phone.
35. You don’t know what’s going on in his life…
For a while, your relationship appeared to be fully transparent. You know what happened today since your boyfriend openly (and enthusiastically) shared it with you.
Obtaining information from him now seems to be impossible. He is not as forthcoming with information, and you frequently feel out of the loop.
You may also find out new details about his life through pals or (worse) when he inadvertently spilled them. It is as if he is already told these things to someone else but, you know it was not you.
36. Work, Work, Work…
As per the data, we all know that most men have an affair with the people they work with. Therefore, when your boyfriend is more engaged in work, it indicates that something is wrong.
“Flat tires, dead batteries, traffic jams, spending extra time at the gym, and similar excuses for being late or absent altogether might also signal infidelity.”
At some point, everyone has extra hours at work. But if it is becoming a habit, there’s definitely something more.
The next time you have a conversation with your boyfriend, ask him why his work is so demanding these days… It may be a promotion, more money, or a big project.
If he does not have an answer, something is cooking, for sure.
37. He doesn’t accompany you to family events
In this era, we all go through a phase where we avoid meeting family and friends. But the cheaters always use this as a weapon.
This might be possible when your relationship has run its course, but you guys cannot accept it.
Ducking out family events is not as cool as you think. But, if he knows that you will join the event, he would rather spend some time alone… without you.
As per the study by psychologist Ramani Durvasula in Oprah Magazine, “A commitment which is major in nature is much more difficult to move on from the relationship.”
If you find him happy with his friends and family but find him avoiding all the plans with you… who are you fooling babe, he definitely does not want you anymore.
38. He does not ask any questions.
Have you ever felt that he is physical with you but mentally somewhere else?
You guys might be in the same room but still not together. Or, you might be having a conversation with only you in it.
You see that vacant look in his eyes in the entire conversation. Do not just ignore his short, one-word replies, or the absurd responses that actually make you feel the need to end the conversation.
Also, if he does not ask about your day-to-day activities, what are you even waiting for?
39. He does not need your approval.
There was a time when he needed advice or approval for his decisions. But now your opinions do not matter to him.
Anything or everything he says feels like an afterthought or bare minimum. When you go out, he does not put any effort into dressing up for you.
He does not take that extra step to impress you or make you feel special. He doesn’t care if you are happy, sad, or angry.
Do not think that he is not evolving or growing in his life. Actually, he is growing and also seeking approvals but it’s not you, anymore.
40. “You are not adventurous”, he says…
One of the best ways to find out if he is cheating or not is if he starts underestimating you in bed… or in life, in general.
He may get frustrated when he doesn’t get what he wants and instead, blames it on you with statements like “You are so boring!” or “You are not adventurous!”
Whenever a new relationship starts, all the sparks and flashes are new. With time, things definitely wear down.
But this doesn’t mean you have the liberty to look elsewhere for the same adventure and spark.
41. Lies… White lies, smart lies…
The most important thing or indication to know if he is cheating on you is his box of lies.
The men who are cheating on their partners… their whole life turns into a whole goddamn lie. He lies to you for the last night out… and the weekend getaway… and the marks on his shirt… the list never ends.
But how do you know he’s lying?
Know that when people lie, they repeat the exact words multiple times, as if they are reciting a poem.
They also tend to overshare the information just to validate the lie… which eventually exposes the truth.
42. He calls you with a wrong name!
This is not just an indication but proof of his infidelity. As per the research and study by Freudian slip, a person ends up saying out loud what s(he) is thinking unconsciously.
He might be so engrossed in the thoughts of his new lady love that it just slips out of his tongue.
This is your sign to take this situation head-on… and get done with it.
43. Is he trying to validate cheating?
In most cases, when a man is unfaithful, he goes out of his way to validate cheating for various reasons.
People who do not follow the traffic rules are always against it… these people are run by feelings and not logic.
If your boyfriend is cheating on you, he will try to justify his actions as much as he can, even if it is just about “sometimes, hormones overpower you”.
44. He has become extra private.
The classic sign that he is cheating on you is when he suddenly wants privacy. He does not like to be questioned and he is not talking to you about his life.
He is answering calls in different rooms and also deleting his messages periodically.
This is because, generally, when a guy cheats, their ability to maintain their privacy increases. It also plays a vital role in keeping up the illusion of their innocence.
It starts with secret usernames, hidden phone numbers, bank accounts, and vacations.
The next time you catch him changing his password, you should ask him about it.
45. He makes friends with those who’ve cheated on their partners.
The friend-list of your boyfriend will give you clear insight into his character, interests, priorities, and pastimes.
You definitely can’t control who he befriends or who he despises… but you must certainly keep a tap on it.
It is actually interesting to note that a cheater typically spends most of the time with his other friends who have already cheated on their partner.
It gives them reassurance… that what they’re doing is not absolutely wrong because others have done it too.
As per the research, 80% of the men who cheat have a close friend who is also a cheater. It is because your boyfriend can relate to the unfaithful activities that have been committed by his friends.
46. He does not share the same seat with you.
If a guy is ready to detach himself mentally and emotionally with you, he would also want to do it physically.
Maybe he does not share the same couch as you… or wants to sleep in a different room.
The more you cling and spring to him, the more he backs off.
47. You are jealous.
If you know your love, if you have been faithful to him, and he has been loyal to you… there’s no way you would be jealous just because he’s friends with another girl.
But if you are, this may not entirely be your fault.
Perhaps, he is trying to make you feel inferior by indulging with other girls and crossing his limits.
You are trying to be polite and flexible, broad-minded, or whatever you call it, but deep inside, you are jealous.
You do not feel secure. Your insecurities might be pointing towards something really concerning.
Stop blaming yourself for it and get on your toes for further inspection.
48. What were you wearing? I don’t remember.
Back in the days, he was genuinely concerned about your appearance. He wanted everything according to his taste, but now he hardly notices.
He is least interested in what dress you are wearing and how you are styling it.
This is a clear indication of his fading interest in you… and that is obviously because he has someone else waiting for him.
49. He does not check your messages.
Is it taking him the entire day to check your messages? Forget about replying.
It wasn’t the same earlier… was it?
Your boyfriend doesn’t even bother to know what is going on with you.
Even if both of you had an argument last night, he should at least see your messages, if not reply.
There’s no roundabout excuse for this. There’s definitely something deep.
50. There are no more intense eye-contacts
There’s one thing that defies all the signs above the eye contact. If he still looks you in the eye, there’s a chance the relationship is not entirely lost.
However, if someone cannot make eye contact with you, it is probably because they are ashamed of their activities.
If you felt the pit in your heart while reading this, then girl, as harsh as it may sound: he is cheating on you.
But if your heart refuses to believe it and you still need more validation.
Here’s a quiz for you.
Is my boyfriend cheating on me quiz
I don’t deny that your guy deserves a benefit of the doubt but hey, don’t just keep holding on to it because you’re too afraid of the darkness.
There are better things waiting for you.
Until then, take this quiz and see if he is really worthy of it.
1. Is he being extra private?
A. No, not at all.
B. Yes, a lot
2. Is he hiding his phone from you?
C. Not sure
3. Is he picking up unnecessary fights?
A. No, almost never
B. Yes, mostly
C. Yes, sometimes
4. Do both of you argue a lot?
A. No, not a lot
B. Yes, a lot
C. Yes, sometimes
5. Does he lie to you?
A. No, never
B. Yes, all the time
C. Not sure. Maybe sometimes.
6. Does he often cancel plans with you?
B. Yes, mostly
C. Not sure
7. Is he always working?
B. Yes, mostly
C. Yes, seldom
8. Is he too busy to be with you?
C. Yes, but he is genuinely busy
9. Do you trust him?
B. Not anymore
C. I have my doubts
10. Is he making you question your place in his life?
11. Does he keep you away from his friends and family?
12. Have you ever caught your boyfriend cheating on you before?
C. He almost cheated once
13. Is your boyfriend being extra sweet to you?
C. Not sure
14. Is your boyfriend using dating apps?
A. He is not on any dating apps
C. A long time ago
15. Have you found a strange small/girlish item from his bag/pockets?
C. I am not sure
16. Is he interacting with new women on social media?
C. Only a few
17. Is he hiding something from you lately?
A. No, he isn’t.
18. Do your friends tell you that he is cheating on you?
C. They are doubtful
19. Is he behaving weirdly?
A. No, that’s usual
B. Yes, more than other days
C. Can’t be certain
20. Does your boyfriend seem to be lost and nervous?
C. Yes, it seems so.
If you answered A
If you mostly answered with A, there is no need to worry. Your boyfriend is all yours.
He might be going through some unpleasant stages in his life. It is time to back him and support him emotionally instead of doubting him.
Take him out on a date already!
If your answered B
If you mostly answered with B, your relationship is definitely not in a good state. To be brutally honest, there’s a high chance he has someone other than you unless there’s a 360-degree change in his lifestyle habits.
Even if you find that your boyfriend is innocent and hasn’t been sleeping with other girls, this is not how you behave in a relationship.
All these gestures must be making you feel so uneasy and uncomfortable. It is, precisely, why your mind is playing tricks on you.
My advice to you is, sit down and talk it out and then see where the conversation takes you both.
If you answered C
For those of you who agree with C, it’s in the middle. He is neither innocent nor the culprit.
But girl, this is when you need to get to the crux of the matter and find out what is exactly happening.
When you have gathered significant evidence, you need to take a table and talk to him directly.
I’m sure it was tough for you… but hey, this isn’t the end of the world. At this point, you must be having so many questions in your mind… I’ve tried to answer a few of them below.
Relationships are both delicate and complex, so you need to be really cautious if you’re in one.
Most couples often fall out due to a trivial misunderstanding.
But, if your intuition says that your man is cheating on you or two-timing, why not talk to him about it?
But before that, don’t forget to read these answers below – It will help you in the conversation.
If you ever come across a situation where you find yourself being cheated on, never doubt yourself. It is difficult to accept that the person you loved so much will leave you in such a miserable state.
You will be diving into the sea of emotions, but you should never lose control and take the wrong step. Decisions taken in haste are always a waste.
Do not blame yourself for this. If you had any idea about this, you would’ve definitely tried to make things right. You have full right to be vexed and outraged at your man.
However, always remember one thing – no matter how ugly it is, never seek revenge. It is not going to help either of you.
Just walk out of this toxic relationship. Give yourself some time to heal… Indulge yourself in other activities so that your mind remains diverted… and learn to prioritize yourself.
Focus on yourself, know your worth. Make some time out for your own body and mind. Hang out with your loved ones and plan a weekend getaway with your girls.
Try to do things that will lift your mood and make you feel better.
Betrayal cannot be explained in easy words. There can be an infinite number of reasons why someone chooses to cheat. The hardest part of infidelity is that one of you suffers a lot more than the other.
According to Dr. Spelman, “cheating could have something to do with the self-esteem of your partner”.
If they have self-doubt or apprehension about themselves, they move out of the relationship to boost their confidence.
Your partner may have been searching for someone who will readily accept what he has to offer… And if he has high self-esteem, he may be doing it to satisfy his ego.
Sometimes men think that they have the right to have sex outside of their relationship… which is absolutely unacceptable.
But there can be zillion other reasons for this as well. It may be because of the never-ending complications of your relationship. Or because he just fell out of love with you.
It is hard to digest that your partner is cheating on you. It feels uncomfortable and suffocating to hold on to such a thing. You will feel heavy from inside until you discuss things with your partner.
So, the sooner you go heads-on, the better it will be.
Remember, you should have some strong proof before you can raise your finger at them. Don’t go charging at him, instead sit down calmly and seek answers.
Look for a suitable opportunity for having such conversations.
You should not discuss this when your partner is working or has just returned from work.
Be ready to counter your partner’s explanation. Make sure your partner realizes the mistake and admits it.
There are a couple of things that can indicate your boyfriend is lying.
If he is lying, you can notice a significant change in his body language.
He might be covering his face, or scratching his head, rubbing his palms together, or holding a tight fist.
Liars are seen to repeat a particular sentence several times, just to make you believe that what they say is true.
If you notice any of the signs listed here, know that your boyfriend is hiding the truth from you.
After such a tragic incident, we are often left to wonder why our partners, who we loved so dearly, choose to cheat on us. It is natural to blame yourself for it… but you must not.
Honestly, there’s nothing you can do about this. It has nothing to do with you.
Some girls are so loving, caring, and gentle, but they still get betrayed by their men. It’s not their fault.
Cheating doesn’t necessarily mean that your partner wasn’t happy with you. There might be some void part of his life that you couldn’t fill, and so he wanted to explore more and finally found the one.
It can also be a lack of communication. There is no more romance or sexual spark left between you both. This can lead your partner to desire more and look for options outside the relationship.
Unfortunately, many people experience cheating and suffer through betrayal by their significant other. So, you’re not the only one in this mess.
However, if you still wish to resolve the complications of your relationship, make sure this isn’t repeated.
Hey girl, don’t ignore the red flags!
Girls, all the signs of cheating are red flags.
If you’re viewing this world with rose-tinted glasses, you’ll never be able to notice the red flags.
So, drop them, hold your chin up high, and don’t let him blind you.
If you truly want to save your relationship, instead pay attention to these warnings with your eyes wide open. Listen to what your friends and family have to say about him.
Don’t take their words… but also don’t dismiss them entirely.
Real men can’t be stolen. True That! Don’t mind me saying this, but, if a woman steals your man, she does not hang out a prior notice in front of your door before doing so!
Remember posting cheating boyfriend quotes, and cheating quotes on your Instagram stories is not going to help you.
If you find your boyfriend in someone else’s den, you better take more rational steps to counter it.
Come on! You are not stupid enough to trust somebody who does not deserve your loyalty… you deserve better my lady!
A word from ThePleasantRelationship
Now that you’ve found out that he is cheating on you… What next? (I hope that he is not!)
Do you think you can live your entire life with a man like him? If yes, then you can take the help of some relationship expert, couple therapist, or a marriage and family therapist.
But rebuilding trust is not an easy process; the healing doesn’t happen overnight. You may feel hurt if I ask you to end a toxic relationship rather than work on repairing it.
But honestly, it’s for the best… for the both of you.
Try to recognize your worth and value who you are. Every individual is worthy of true love and most importantly loyalty in a relationship.
There is no harm in looking for a better partner for yourself.
Yes, you might be betrayed again…and again.
But that should not stop you from living your life, give yourself a third chance, a fourth one. Because you deserve all the chances, beautiful lady!
Surabhi wakes up every day with a drive to craft words that can create a soulful impact. Creatively adventurous, she is always seeking to learn new skills and acquire new experiences. With a hidden soft corner for languages (especially Urdu), she writes poetry occasionally, binges on romantic shows, and LOVES to talk. A hustler, admirer, chaser, Surabhi is just another-someone who refused to give up on her dreams. She says, she is just somebody who’s trying to make herself a writer and for now, she’s just writing...