Behaviors to Avoid While Arguing With Your Partner

Criticism

Making negative judgements about your partner in extreme terms. Using terms like "never" and "always."

Example: "You are always so stubborn!"

Defensiveness

Making excuses to avoid taking responsibility or even deflecting blame onto your partner.

Example: "I didn't do anything wrong."

Contempt

Treating your partner with disrespect, disgust, condescension, or ridicule.

Example: Mean-spirited sarcasm, mockery, eye-rolling, sneering, or name-calling.

Stonewalling

Withdrawing, shutting down, and physically and emotionally distancing yourself from your partner.

Example: Silent treatment